Summer Break

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Summer Break
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 1:42am
I wrote earlier about this guy I really like not calling me. We're on summer break from college. When school got out we were at the point of starting a relationship. We both finally admitted we really liked each other after flirting all semester long. The goal for the summer was to figure out what we wanted. The safe rational part of myself wanted to say hey let's just be friends b/c thinking about this boy 24/7 and being so happy thinking about him drives me crazy. I've never felt like this before. Our friends say we are so cute together. Well he did call me, but it was odd. He called June 3rd to wish me a happy 21st b-day.. Only my b-day is July 3rd and I'll be 20... He says he's going to come see me soon and it was a good conversation. Only he has yet to come and see me and I feel like although it wasn't my b-day when he called why not come see me on my birthday? I live 45 min away. Granted yes we both work a whole lot and our schedules never allow us to plan things, but am I wrong in wanted him to come see me. I know he's not seeing anyone else. He told me he's spent too much time and effort to screw this up. We're really good friends, but we both want more. I guess I'm just wondering what can I do to let him know how much i miss him? I think about him all the time my mom says my face lights up just hearing his name. I've met his mother and she also thinks we're really cute together. He's what I want. I know this now after not being able to see him for a month. It's so nice to know that he likes me too.. I just don't know what to do now.. I guess I'm wondering how to take that next step. It took awhile for us to admit we liked each other so now that whole boy/girlfriend thing is the next step. I just don't know have to get it to that. Should I tell him what I'm feeling? Thanks-- i'm so confused b/c I care so much I don't want to lose this.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 9:36am
So you've only heard from him that one time when he called to wish you a HB? And that's it? I think your stated goal wasn't clear enough...does this mean that you have to wait all summer for him to figure out if he wants to be your boyfriend? Does this mean that you can't date anyone else? What exactly did it mean? I think if you've only heard from him the one time in four weeks, that's a pretty clear message that he's not pursuing this relationship. Forty five minutes is not a great distance. When a guy wants you, he'll chase you.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:28pm
Seems like if there is real interest he will make more attempts at seeing you and talking to you.

Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 2:43pm
Only 1 phone call in a month? And, he got the date and age wrong? Well, that could have been an honest mistake. But, did the two of you actually plan to spend the summer apart to figure things out? Our of sight, out of mind...................or absence make the heart grow fonder. You probably won't know until the two of you get back to school. I would agree that if he really truly cares for you, he would make more of an effort. But, have you called him at all during the month? Maybe he thinks that YOU aren't interested anymore. I think the two of you should talk about it.