supposed to leave tomorrow, help!
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supposed to leave tomorrow, help!
| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:10pm |
i wrote recently about how i have seen my ex (while i am currently in a committed relatioship)...my ex and i kissed, etc. etc. my current BF and i are supposed to leave for vacation tomorrow to visit his fmaily. i came down with strep throat and don't feel well, so i told him i might not be up for traveling on a plane, etc. i do have to admit though that i kind of want to see my ex again and that is a part of the reason i don't want to go. what i truly want is to let go of my ex and try to make this relationship with my current bf work. so, help do i go on the trip or cancel???
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| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 2:19pm |
You are contradicting yourself. If you truly want to let go of your ex, you will go on this trip (unless you are really too sick to fly and not using it as an excuse). Going on the trip would be making a sincere effort to make your relationship work, the time together would help you make a firm decision about how you truly feel about your BF, and eliminate the temptation to cheat if you stayed home alone. If you are seriously too sick to fly, then the worst thing you can do is tumble into the arms of your ex and betray your BF again. If you have the kind of character that makes that acceptable, then you are going to have to live with yourself knowing you have intentionally hurt three people - your BF, your ex, and yourself. If you are so conflicted that can't resist cheating, do the right thing and break up with your BF. Anything less is unfair to him and just plain wrong and you know it.
| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 2:32pm |
thank u so much for that advice...i have decided to go on the trip because staying home would probably lead me to see my ex, which i know and feel is wrong.
| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 4:23pm |
I think you are making the right choice, and I hope you feel better and have a great time!
