Sweating him!
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| Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:45am |
I've recently begun dating my tennis instructor. I took a few lessons with him last summer and we hit it off, had a mild flirtation, but kept it at that, as I was involved with someone else, and our rapport was just friendly overall. I've taken another two lessons this month, and now that my relationship has ended and I am single, the flirtation was back and we wound up deciding to go out for a drink. (By the way, I am not taking any more lessons with him, that I'd decided before anything happened, so no conflict of interest or seeing him other than any dates we go on). He's nice, he's fun, and it's easy and unstressful since we know each other.
We went out last Thursday and had a great time, and again this past Sunday. He said he'd call Monday or Tuesday to try to schedule a date for this weekend, but no word from him so far. He knows I'm busy Saturday, so I assume Friday would make the most sense to get together. So, now it is Wednesday and I have not heard from him and am starting to sweat him a little. I think he's into me -- on Sunday he joked about his roomies asking when they got to meet me, etc. -- but I am not entirely sure. And now that I haven't heard from him when he said he'd call, I'm doubting it more. Am I just getting all wound up about this for nothing? Should I just sit tight and see if he phones tonight? If I don't hear from him tonight or Thursday, do I take the hint that he's not into it or do I give him a call at that point (say Thursday) and see what's up? This is so middle school but I don't know what to do!

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Hi Erin,
Hang in there. It will be a bit of a rollercoaster I think for the next week or two while you work him out of your system. At least it has been for me. I too have still not received a call from my guy. I knew him alot longer and dated for longer than you, but the outcome and the confusion and insecurities are very much the same. And we're in our 40's! Childish games never cease I guess.
I have gone back and forth in my mind, call-don't call-I deserve an answer darn it-no, I don't want to give him the satisfaction-I miss him-I don't miss him, etc, etc. I saw him again at the Post Office yesterday and this time I know he saw me because he was pulling in past me as I got into my truck. I waved, he waved but then I saw someone else wave and now I don't even know if the wave was for me or not, lol. I did my part. Thought that by seeing me he'd generate some type of communication, but still nothing. * I have learned that no matter how miserable I feel, I have to keep up my appearance so when he does see me I'm looking happy and refreshed....ya right! lol*
Hang in there. Just trying to let you know there are other guys like that out there who do this sort of thing so try not to take it personally. They are indeed cowards and if you make the contact and get back together for however short a period of time you will never know if he truly cared or just gave in just to have someone around and as Snafu said, you'll probably get hurt by this guy again. If he wants to see or talk to you, he'll make the time. Keep your head up, always look your best for you never know where you'll run into him. Gain your own closure in some way and start enjoying the summer!
Patty
PATTY
~Dare to believe in yourself~
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