Symptoms of BiPolar or just a jerk?
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Symptoms of BiPolar or just a jerk?
| Mon, 04-26-2004 - 2:23pm |
Just met this older man (i'm 26 he's 40 with one kid). We met last week and there was an instant attraction. I've been through some very tough stuff in my short number of years and he could relate to me, understand me, not judge me. I admit I was VERY excited about the possibilities. In the past I would have jumped in head first - but after MUCHO therapy I don't go that way anymore. But with this man - calling throughout the day - IMing me constantly. And here's the most important part- he's Bipolar. He has his illness "under control" but he is simply erratic. After all the phone calling and saying how much he wants to see me he suddenly says let's just be friends. Then when I tried to discuss it with him he said he didn't like all the drama I was bringing in. WHAT?!!? Same night I get an apology from him (he was scared, been hurt in the past, yada yada yada). Now we are supposed to see one another tommorow night. I want to go but I am SUPER cautious. He tells me how much he wants to see me. But when I ask him things (over IM) he blows them all out of proportion and then tells me it is exhausting chatting with me. Is this guy unstable (due to his BiPolar) or is he just a jerk? Maybe he's both? He seems to be attempting to manipulate me (when I told him I could not see him tonight he replied "well I guess I'll have to make other plans then...", drops hints about other dates etc). Sorry this is so long. Should I walk away?

it's never a good idea to get involved with someone who tells you what a jerk he is because that's all you're gonna get and it'll be a continual up-hill battle.
not worth it.
Hello rsk30, welcome to the board!
There are many who are bipolar / manic depressives ... In fact, it has been said that one out of every four people is bipolar... If he takes his meds religously he can control it. But, I wonder here if this isn't more a case of indecisiveness and insecurity...
Either way it seems to be a red flag for you. And red flags don't seem to just go away. Either exercise extreme caution or walk away and find a more suitable relationship.
tg
Why are you going out with this man?
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