Taking HIM On A Date???

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Registered: 03-18-2006
Taking HIM On A Date???
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Mon, 08-21-2006 - 5:59pm

I'm hoping i could get some advice/answers on my situation without it sounding too dumb. I've been with my man for 7 months now yet we've been friends for 6 years. Anyways ever since we started a relationship(exclusively i might add),i'll admit it but we havent even went out on ONE date yet. Our usual routine is me going over to his house and just watching movies/tv & cuddle. sometimes we would have sex, but not always. He's been mentioning all the times that he wants to take me out to the movies & dinner like a normal couple does, which is what i want him to do. There's just one problem: HE HAS NO CAR! Not that its a big deal with not having a car, its just i have one and he doesnt anymore. He did have a car a few months ago, but the engine went bad so he ended up taking it to a junk yard instead spending alot of money getting it fixed. He is trying to save up enough money now to get a new car, but until then its just my car thats the reliable transportation. Going over to his house and chilling is fine with me, but its getting to a point that i want to GO OUT on a date. He said that he is willing to take me out, its just that my car would have to supply that date, which im thinking it would be ME taking HIM out; not HIM taking ME. I have NEVER drove on a date with anyone; its always the man(maybe im being old-fashion, i dont know).I just always had my first date with the man being the driver; not myself. So would it be right ME to take HIM out on a date or just wait until he can take me out??? Thanks in advance.

Nicole

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 7:28pm

You've got some confusion. All you would be doing is providing transportation. Are you planning on deciding what to do? When to do it? Make all the arrangements? Pay for everything?

If not, then he is hosting the date.

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 8:46pm

I know, as a girl, it feels wonderful to be driven to a date in a guy's car....
It's the complete package. I know exactly where you are coming from. But things are not always Ideal in life. We have to be flexible and adjust all the time to different things. So in that case, how long are you going to wait to go out on a date, when HE and YOU are already both ready to go out! It's the thought that matters right? And you know that your BF is not doing this intentionally. So get your car, and go out and have a great time!!

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Registered: 03-18-2006
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 9:15pm

Im thinking about making him drive my car, which i might consider doing since he will still be taking me out except in my car.he would definitly be the one paying since he's the one taking me out & offered to do so. i'll run it by him though with him driving though. Thanks for the help.

Nicole

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 4:57pm
It's either chill at his house or drive so why not do the latter? Would you feel more comfortable if he drove once you picked him up?
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Registered: 03-18-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 6:30pm
thats a good point. so yeah, i think i would feel more comfortable if he drove, even if it is my car we're riding in.