Taking things slow

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Registered: 11-09-2007
Taking things slow
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Fri, 11-09-2007 - 11:14pm
I have been seeing someone for almost two months now. He is one of the nicest guys I've dated in a long time. We get along really well and always have a good time together. One thing he mentioned is that he wants to take things slow. I told him I can appreciate that, and that it is actually is kind of releiving to meet someone who doesn't want to rush in to things. The thing is, now its been two months of this slow pace and I don't feel like it's going anywhere. He doesn't call me often, sometimes not even for a whole week!! I've confronted him on why he wants to be so slow about things, but all he says is he doesn't want to rush in to a serious relationship. I don't know what to do? Will he ever want a relationship or should I end it now? I don't want to spend another 4 months waiting for him, and then only to find out he doen't want a commitment. The hard thing is, I really enjoy spending time with him and would like a relationship, one day. Is slow better than nothing?
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Registered: 09-14-2007
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 12:24am

If slow is not what you want, then no, it's not "better than nothing".

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Registered: 07-10-1999
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 8:27am

I don't think only calling somebody once a week is that bad when you haven't even known the person for two whole months yet. Have you guys at least agreed to be exclusive yet? If not, you should be talking about it at this point. Otherwise, I would give him a few more months and see how things go. Giving things that much time will allow you to know a lot more about what you're getting into before things get serious.

I would also talk to him about his timeline for specific things like calling more often, that way you'll have a better sense of how long you would need to wait for him, and you can see whether or not things really are progressing the way he says he expects them to.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 11:30am

Mmm, not necessarily.