taking things slow? how?

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Registered: 02-04-2004
taking things slow? how?
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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 8:22pm
yeah when people say they want to take things slow at the beginning of the relationship, how exactly do you take things slow????

 

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 9:38pm
You talk to your partner, go out to dinner, go sightseeing, share hobbies, go to movies, and spend quality time together. You don't rush into saying "I love you" or into sex. In other words: you take your time to know your partner according to your feelings and needs.
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Registered: 02-04-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 12:21am
so what happens if you've had sex only once but want to take things slow and want to hold off until there are deeper feelings involved

 

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 2:13pm
If you've had sex...well then it wasn't that slow. Too back up and start from the beggining and start over without sex, is extremely difficult to do.
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Registered: 02-04-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 5:05pm
no i agree having sex is definitely jumping the gun. yes the post is pertaining to my current situation. we've spent a lot of time talking, getting to know each other, and have gone out a few times. but haven't defined where we stand. my biggest concern is (and not only w/ him) that i always think there is someone out there better for the guy. and in turn have a hard time coming to terms w/ knowing that the guy is into me and wants to be w/ me. cause i have a tendency of conjuring up senarios in my mind and make myself crazy. and since we've already jumped the gun w/ out defining where we stand makes me a little uneasy. i'm not sure if i should bring it up and what i should say

 

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 10:42am
How? It's a "mental" state of being. You lay low. You don't place all your eggs in one basket. You don't expect a person's all within a short time of meeting or dating. You don't give your all to someone you barely know. You don't plan your whole life around someone you really don't know and you don't expect the same. You take time to really know a person before making a committment or expecting one. You don't loan money or cosign on loans to someone you've only been dating a few months! LOL. I've seen this done! Wow!

Also, sex has nothing to do with it unless a peson places sex, love and total devotion together and expect the same.

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 12:44pm
thanks