Tell him I'm still married (legally)

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Tell him I'm still married (legally)
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 4:46pm
Hi, I am a newly "single" woman as of January of this year. My divorce was to be final in early June, but my lawyer advised me not to FILE the papers until the home was either refinanced or sold to be safe. My "ex" kept stalling out his refi and as I let April, may and then finally put the kybash on him in June for the Refi he did not qualify!!!! AFTER I LET HIM WAIT AND MAKE ME WAITA ND WAIT he didn't qualify so we put the house onthe makret. It still has not sold. Mean while I have been dating a wonderful man whom makes me very happy and we enjoy each toerhs company and get along great. He knew that initially I was still legally married, but thought it was over in June as well I did think it would be. We discussed this briefly back in March when we first began dating. Well we have not brought it up since then and now I am struggling with whether or not to tell him that I am still legally stuck witht this guy. Should I and risk it or keep my mouth shut since he has not brought it up! I am so confused I don't want to lose him!

Also this marriage of mine was a total waste of time. my "ex" knows I am with soeone else and so is he. We were just firends who both one day said we should never have been married. We were only married for a year...we drunk one night in Vegas-which is when and how we got married. Just wanted to clear that part up.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 5:23pm
Oh, my gosh, YES, you should tell him!!!! I can't believe you haven't yet!!!

Sheri

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 2:17pm
Ok, my concern here is not about whether or not you should tell this new guy (which my answer is yes, be straight with him) but rather, WHY WOULD YOUR LAWYER GIVE YOU SUCH SHODDY ADVICE???? File the papers, my god! The lawyer doesn't want you to file cause he can get more money out of you. If the papers say the house must be sold and the profit divided, then file- if not, add that in and file!!!

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