Tell me this isn't true

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Tell me this isn't true
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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 10:22am

Please tell me it isn't true that "all the good guys" are taken right after college. This can't be true. I'm 25, single, and having been dating like a horse's hound lately. I've been out with 7-10 guys over the past few months, and just not have been having any luck. I need to know that I still have good guys to find out there. Tell me all the ones in my age group are not either in married or in serious relationships. That's kind of a cliche isn't it? Thanks!

P.S. In general, the guys at my big state university were immature, selfish, and idiotic, at least at the age of 22 or 23, by the time they were graduating. Why the heck would I have wanted to have been engaged to one of them? All they were interested in was drinking and partying....am I just an odd bird? HOw can this be?

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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 11:44am
I sure hope not, because I am also 25 and single. I work at a university, so I know what you mean about these college guys being immature. I was in a serious relationship the entire time I was in college, but all the college guys were interested in drinking/partying anyway.
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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 11:54am

This is definately NOT TRUE!


There is something for you to consider given your age group.

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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 12:40pm

I understand what you're saying and completely agree with it. I'm just so sick of hearing, "Oh...he's 28 and single??? Must be for a reason." Why do people make such assumptions? I don't think there is anything weird about being 25-32 years old and being single (male or female).

I do not understand why people live by this clichee "At our age, all the good ones are taken". Okay maybe some people do get married right after they graduate college, but some of those end up in divorce a couple years later. I'd rather grow and learn about myself and experience life before getting married, and I don't think it's odd for a guy to do the same. Therefore, I like to think that there are definitely tons of good guys my age out there.

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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 8:26pm
The average ages at first marriage are around 26 for women and 28 for men. That means there are lots of men out there who are 25 and older who haven't gotten married. Expect it to take some time to find someone wonderful, it's better to take the time than it is to settle, and you have lots of time.
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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 9:04pm
Believe in the old adage that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince. But also believe in the new adage that the good thing is the more frogs you kiss, the closer you are to meeting your prince. Continue to be open (try not to become jaded) and keep practicing self-compassion. As the last person wrote, you have plenty of time. When it's right, it's worth the wait.
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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 11:15pm

Thank you. My mom tells me the same thing. :o)

Sometimes its easy to get insecure though. I guess I need to be more secure in myself.

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Sat, 12-18-2004 - 3:52pm
Thank you for the inspiring thoughts.
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