telling somone how you feel

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Registered: 07-22-2004
telling somone how you feel
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 1:48pm
ok so I have known this guy for 3 years we have dated on an off. It seems we always have bad timing though and it never works out. I have never been able to be myself around him as dumb as that sounds. With this guy i tend to form into something i think he wants when really i make an ass out of myself and ruin it. I feel like he has the wrong idea of me and thinks i am an air head! I guess he has every reason to because that is pretty much what happens to me when i am around him. Anyways I think i am going to tell him exactly how i feel(he has done this once to me before but again bad timing and it didnt work out) I was just wondering if anyone else has done this and how it worked out and if anything you at least got some sort of closure. Thank you for your input.
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 1:58pm
I think if you have known him for 3 years, there is no reason why you can't tell him how you feel. That is, if you feel you need some kind of closure. At least you will have gotten it off your chest and you may feel better, regardless of the outcome.
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Registered: 06-13-2003
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 2:00pm
Ah, I am the queen of telling guys how I feel about them - unfortunately not once has it resulted in them staying with me/gettinig back with me... however, what it does do is force them to be up front with you back, which can really help clear things up for you and help you make decisionos/get on witth things. I'm a real advoocate of it, but try to be cautious of keeping it light - guys generally don't want to deal with too much intensityy so if you can add humour or soomething it hellps.. good luck!@!