Texting

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2005
Texting
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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 12:26pm
If you sent someone a text and they didn't reply, would you send another one? Is it possible for someone not to get a text sometimes? Would you even try calling them? What are your thoughts on texting? Is it the same as a phone call?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 12:37pm

gloflo2005...

Pianoguy thinks all text messages STINK!

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It doesn't matter how many text messages you send (or receive)...they are a 'cheap substitute' for picking up the phone and actually talking to another human being.

If a person can't devote AT LEAST 10 MINUTES to making a phone call and getting to know someone they're even slightly interested in, he (or she) has no business contacting that person in the first place!

Sorry if I've offended any ivillagers who love to "text!"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:08pm

I would not rely on a text message...they don't always get through. If you want to be (reasonably) sure the person got your message, then call and leave a voicemail, or send an email.

I personally dislike texts unless someone is in a situation where it's purely impossible to call...my thought is, if you want to communicate with me, pick up the darn phone ;-)!

Sheri

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:17pm
I'd send one more text after a reasonable amt of time - like a day - then wait for him to contact you.
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Registered: 10-21-2004
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:48pm

hehehe, I think Pianoguy, Sheri and I are a little more "old school" in that we didn't always have these technological conveniences like texting, IM'ing, etc. There was a day where we had to RELY ON the phone. And that was that.

And to that end, I do still believe the good 'ol fashioned phone call is the best way to go. Think about it, you'll never have these problems or issues of "did he get my text?" if you just use the phone. No fuss, no muss. Very easy to pick up the phone and CONNECT.

I, too, am not a big fan of texting. It's not a very effective form of communication, if you ask me. Not even in the same ballpark as a phone call. Honestly, I think text messaging is just, well, lazy. People hide behind electronic forms of communication like texting, IM, email ... and frankly, it will never be a good substitute for actually TALKING!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 3:36pm

Eh, I'm pretty much a convert on email...IM'ing, less so, and texting, even less ;-).

But my primary objection to texting in the OP's case is that they are NOT 100% reliable in terms of being received...much less so than email.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 3:42pm

This one is actually for both Sheri and Starbuck...

Pianoguy prefers phone conversations (over text messages) because they are a perfect opportunity to "flirt, flatter and find out stuff about a potential partner!" The tone of someone's voice can reveal a lot about another human being and their personality.

Text messages are basically C-O-L-D!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-25-2006
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 3:58pm
Texting when you're in the process of getting to know someone is bad. But once a relationship is established, I see nothing wrong with it. My ex and I used to text back and forth while he was at work and couldn't talk on the phone. Some of them were raunchy, some of them were just "I'm thinking of you" texts. I guess there is a time and place for everything. But both individuals should feel the same way about the different modes of communication i.e. one of my exes loved email, another one hated it.
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Registered: 09-12-2005
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:14pm
Thanks guys for all your opinions, it just that I also think text messaging sucks! The reason I'm asking is that some guys have the tendency to do this because girl reply so easily and with no hesitation. I think if we stop replying to their messages they will either call us or we will find out the are not really that interested. To ME interested means CALLING you. thanks again for replies :)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:19pm

I would reply with something like, "call me, please". And I'd mention the next time you get together that you're not a big fan of texting.

The danger of just not responding is that he infers that you're not interested rather than that you don't like to text ;-).

Sheri

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Registered: 10-21-2004
In reply to: gloflo2005
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 6:56pm

<< The danger of just not responding is that he infers that you're not interested rather than that you don't like to text ;-).>>

Exactly. Don't expect him to read your mind. Rather, let him know that you prefer to be called rather than texted, and if he does text you, if you don't respond ... that it's not personal, it's just not your preferred form of communication, and if does text you, that you'll call him when it's convenient. That's the only way he'll know to call you rather than text you ... if you let it be known.

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