Is there any other way to help him
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Is there any other way to help him
| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 12:27pm |
I have been dating a guy I have been friends with for more than a year, for a little over 4 weeks. After a little of what was a bummpy start things have been going well. Things are just as they were when we were friends just a little more intimate than before. The only thing that bugs be now more than before we started dating is that the guy has very little self confidence and is always down about himself. I try my best to tell him and show him he is great and that he means a lot to me but it never seems to work or be enough. He says that us being together makes him happy but I just don't belive him sometimes when he is depressed and upset. This happens on a daily basis and I don't know what to do anymore. He was like this when we were just friends but it never really seemed to be a problem because we didn't sepenmd as much time together then as we do now. I am a very positive person and his depression is catching. He does make me happy and I do want to make this work but I just find it hard to be the one who is always positive and he refuses to look on the bright side. I really want to help hom be happy but should I continue trying to help him or is it better to break things off before we both get hurt?

There is only so much you can do for your b/f. If his life is a downer...the only way he can turn things around IS TO HONESTLY WANT TO!
Since you are basically positive...and he appears to be the other way...you might want to let him know that while YOU love him and like being with him...you WON'T go down in the dumpster with him! So if he truly enjoys your company and wants to be a major part of your life...he needs to "accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative!"
If that's too tough an assignment for him...then YOU have to decide if your relationship together is worth the negativity?
Pianoguy