Is there a dating rule: Sex on date 3?
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Is there a dating rule: Sex on date 3?
| Thu, 12-29-2005 - 12:57pm |
I was in a 5-6 year relationship before my last one of 6 months.. I'm a guy, 34, and I hear that now people generally expect to be having sex on date three! True or false? Besides the 'there are always exceptions' is this phenomenon really ocurring? If I date a younger girl (say younger than 30) is SHE going to have a fixed timeline in her head, comparing our dates to it?
Jouster

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Don't believe everything that you hear ;-)! While there are definitely some people out there who have this expectation, it's far from a general "rule". And if some woman is measuring you against that expectation, is that someone you'd really want to date???
Sheri
I realize my realtionships last longer that way
I have heard this too but I'm sure it's just a myth. Everyone's different, and people who really have a personality and confidence won't listen to these so-called rules some fictional person made up. I will definitely not be having sex with the man I'm dating on our THIRD date. I mean, I actually want to get to know him before getting that intimate. If I really like someone, I'll try to hold off on sex for a while to make sure that he wants me for more than just a shag, kwim? Btw, I'm 22.
Actually, I interpreted the 'sex on the third date rule' as being a rule speeding up the race to have sex. Not in slowing it down from sex on the first date.
And I only once had sex on a first date and that turned out to be a largely sexless 5 year relationship!! (she had vestibulitis or something)...
Maybe I am wrong, but I dont really ever expect to be having sex on the first date at all! If we both do feel very attracted to each other, my expectation would be at most 'heavy petting' but really, I dont think I would feel comfortable afterward if it went farther than that.....she'd have to be a really sweet girl that stayed with me for a while after that until I began to feel assured that it was an okay thing to do..
Jouster
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