Thinking About Him

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Thinking About Him
Sat, 10-27-2012 - 11:17pm

This past Thursday I had taken my driving test for my license and failed. Afterwards I felt awful and felt worthless becuz I couldn't pass the test. I then felt like the guy I was talking too I was not worth his time and was worthless for him because of who I am.

I don't have a license or a car.

I don't have my own place.

I don't cook.

I don't want kids.

I don't drink.

I don't do drugs.

I don't smoke.

I don't want to have sex until marriage.

So what guy would want to date someone like me? I felt so worthless that I ended up pushing that guy away and now he doesn't want to talk to me becuz he says he doesn't want to get hurt and he said I pushed him away. I just can't stop thinking of him and everything mentioned above. I am trying but nothing is happening.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 10-28-2012 - 11:24am

Don't give up--my son had to take the road test 3x before he passed while my DD passed the 1st time.  He was actually a good driver with me, but taking the test made him nervous.  The 1st time I went with him and he made some dumb mistakes.  One time it was a tricky stop sign where you couldn't see the cross street from the stop line.  The 2nd time he went w/ his dad and I guess he pulled out of the RMV parking lot into traffic too fast--they stopped him right there.  Then where we live it's very hard to get an appt. so we had to go to a different place for the 3rd test--my friend told me that at this place they make you do parallel parking where at the 1st place they didn't.  Luckily I found that out so he did more practicing.  I literally had to close my eyes while he was doing it cause I was so nervous.

What you are saying is really illogical--he probably knows all this stuff about you already & goes out with you so what has changed?  Just that you didn't get your license?  So try again.  The fact that you don't drink, smoke or do drugs is actually posivite for most guys so I don't see why that would be bad.  Not wanting kids definitely would reduce the number of guys who would want to marry you but there are men who don't want kids either, you just have to look around.

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Registered: 10-27-2012
Mon, 10-29-2012 - 12:49pm

Hello there... you dont do dont drink... you dont want to have sex before marriage..etc... shows that you know what you want in your life and you know how to live it well. Whatever you are doing is 100% right and it shows that you are good person. . Dont change youself for someone else. If that perosn really likes you..than he will accept you for who you are... and dont worry about your driving.. try again.. all the best.