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|Sun, 12-22-2013 - 5:12pm|
Hi, I'm not sure what to think.
I have this social network circle of artist friends. I ended up meeting one at a real-life festival in a neighboring state. After the several days of festival he began flirting with me and there was a connection. However when I added him on fb he had a girlfriend. Bummer. But online he continued to openly flirt (he's flirty in general, girlfriend seemed aware, no judgment). I was left hurt &confused more so because I believe our well meaning mutual online friends continued to stoke the flame. Just when I thought they were solid, he broke with his girlfriend. From her posting pictures of puppies and babies I sense its b/c he didn’t want that deeper commitment. So he was essentially putting out the feelers and began wearing lots of blue...which was the 'color' when he became interested in me (my fav). In the meantime a third girl who occasionally flirted with him is now becoming very open. This third girl is Betty (indie) Page gorgeous, hijacks posts, offers herself on a silver platter, openly announced she'd fly to his city the moment he broke up (to his credit he didn’t contact her, posting pics with him and his male friends when she arrived). To please him, as he mentions Europe a lot, she then flew to Paris. At this moment she is Paris/Berlin posting “I made myself vulnerable for you, but I forgive you (insert sexual metaphors)". Seems over the top college behavior? Well that must be what works, he responding, likes her brave no boundaries approach etc.
The message I'm getting is, he's putting himself on the market soon and wants to date the BOTH of us. Shuttled into another ménage-a-trios but with this third very dramatic girl. While I seem to be included, I feel torn/upset about this. Btw, I was married, faithful, and divorced and haven’t dated for a few years. I'm in the awkward position of having been a helpful hidden acquaintance (marketing for his biz tips), my intimate thoughts exposed via friends (vs shared--different concepts), and hoping for more against my better judgment.
No one knows the future, but are them the brakes? If he approaches me in the future is it worth it? If so, it seems the hyper one will likely overtake him and I may as well save myself some hurt later? I wish I just met that significant other dedicated towards me especially. But maybe that's some fairy tale scenario. Or maybe it's worth it for the 'dating experience' and I may have a chance for a good one. Don’t know.