For those intrested in my drama...

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Registered: 04-07-2004
For those intrested in my drama...
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Thu, 04-08-2004 - 9:01pm
Just an update for those of you who want to know. As I had posted before, I still haven't gotten a call from my boyfriend. I'm on day 5 1/2 of letting him have his week of space. It's getting harder and harder and I'm expecting the worst. If he wants to end things, I wish he would go ahead and do it instead of dangling me over the cliff like this. I did however get a text message from him a few days ago that I failed to mention before. All it said was "I Love You Alot". Nothing since. I know that's more on the positive side but I'm convinced theres going to be a "but...". I don't see this getting any easier anytime soon. Thanks for being there for me.
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Registered: 04-07-2004
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 10:16pm
I know how you feel, I came here regarding the same situation... mine however has taken months, not days... it's hard and stressing to either confront the situation or just let go, after all the things that happened.

The help I've gotten here has two sides, have the strenght to let go - which I don't think is your case - or grab the bull by the horns and take the risk of facing the issue face to face...regardless of the outcome.

I don't know how long you've been together but silence is not good in any situation, when communication breaks down there's little hope for things to turn out right, or at least painless.

My advice to you is to do what your heart tells you, either look for him expecting an explanation both of the lost time and the message, or just letting time take care of things, this is to wait for him to come around or just let it die slowly, which is the most difficult one to accept.

Yes, it is true that sometimes we men need time to breathe... but that doesn't mean that we won't talk about what we feel, otherwise this is an indication of second thoughts and regrets, both difficult to explain. I'm sorry if this is not what you expected to hear.

I hope this helps...
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 10:40pm
Give it a few more days. Write down how you're feeling, etc. Write down what you want to say to him at the end of this. Write a letter to him discussing it all.

And remember to BREATHE!

And keep posting here if it helps stop that urge. :) *hugs* It will soon be over...