Threatening to Leave
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Threatening to Leave
| Tue, 10-05-2004 - 11:30am |
DF and I live together and plan to marry in May. Neither of us has lived with someone before so this is quite an adjustment for us. Just last night I sat down with DF and brought up some issues about his untruths. He admitted his lies and claimed to be heartly sorry. I wanted him to know how hurt I was. Of course our conversation spun out of control as it usually does, bringing up all sorts of past issues. He ended up going to bed at 9:00. I told him I was going out and he says "not in my truck you aren't." This upset me because I have opened my door to him and have never once been selfish about my belongings with him. Anyway, I left in my car and came back an hour later. This morning he wakes me before work and says he's not coming home tonight and that he will see me Friday, he's done playing my games. "He" is the one who lied and now I am paying the price. He said that he will not call me today and that he's not coming home. This is the 4th or 5th time he has threatened to leave...the first two times, I feel ashamed for admitting this, I begged him not to go and he didn't. I don't know what to do. I have asked him to never use that card on me...if we are getting married leaving is not an option but he continues to do it. HELP!

Until you put your foot down and say, there's the door use it if that's what you want and stand by that decision, you'll keep doing this dance.
Go.
Also patterns that happen while you are living together or dating will continue into your marriage UNLESS you both do some major changes, perhaps even get counseling.