tips on how to set the mood???

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Registered: 08-25-2004
tips on how to set the mood???
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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 1:46am
ok, me and my b/f have been dating for several months now, and our sex life is GREAT! i honestly have no complaints...but...there are somethings missing. when we are about to we never have the right setting, normally its in the bedroom, but its lacking romantic appeal. i was thinking maybe some candles or some music, but im still not satisfied, its not that the sex is getting worse, its just not getting any better....EXCITEMENT maybe. if you have any suggestions(i.e.-new positions,techniques) lighthing and fragrance....itd be greatly appreciated...please help me out! thanx! =)

*peace*

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Registered: 08-22-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 2:49pm
Hey, I don't have a boyfriend at the moment, but a previous love intrest of mine and I had the same problem. We decided that our timing was way off! He'd come home from work and be in the mood and I would just about to take off to work and not have enough time to get the full on pleasurable experience. So that could be one problem, I would suggest finding a time when both of you are home and together. Another thing very well could be the setting. Candles and music might do the trick, but it has to be what you like. Don't play your typical romantic "Love Songs" cd compilation. More like what the both of you enjoy and find sexy. Candles are good too but don't over do it. Set the ambiance. I prefer lots of small candles spread throughout the room rather than a few large candles stratigically placed somewhere. Scented candles can be nice, but too much of a scent can be unpleasant. I would suggest maybe one or two secented candles that aren't too strong. A helpful tid-bit to get the mood just perfect is either after a romantic dinner or after a shower. When both of you are warm and wrapped up in towels. The atmosphere could be thrilling! I know my ex and I enjoyed the bed, but if you're having trouble, the floor on some pillows or a nice blanket might be different and fun. As for postions, I would suggest checking out this website...they have some helpful hints. I hope helped you along...good luck!
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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 4:03pm
I agree. My sex life with my boyfriend is great because of little things like that. One thing that I find gets both of us in the mood and is very sensual is getting or giving a massage....and not just a flimsy massage. The kind of massage that lets you explore his whole body or vice versa. You light a few candles, have a little background music and some soft scented massage oil (i recommend getting this from the Body shop because they can make it smell any way you want it to) and maybe some fruit with chocolate or whipped cream. This always does the trick because there isn't anything more sensual then skin to skin contact without even having to have sex...but it will definitely lead to something.

Hope it all works out for you.