tired of being single....

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Registered: 02-04-2004
tired of being single....
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 5:16pm
and i apparently keep looking for 'love' in the 'wrong places'

any suggestions as to where to meet guys?

 

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Registered: 10-04-2004
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 10:37pm
Well as weird as this may sound one of my best friends (who is not a troll) found an awesome boyfriend (also not a troll)using an online dating service. As much as I hear good stuff about it though I can't bring myself to use one! You should try it for us and let us know how that works for the rest of us chickens.
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Registered: 02-04-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 10:01am
i had a profile on lavalife earlier this year (feb/march) i think but a) there wasn't any guys i was attracted to on there b) most of the ppl contacting me were old c) i didnt feel like i wanted to meet any of them in person and they kept hounding me so i took it off.

then i joined this other thing - cause my friend had, and talked to quite a few people off that. then found out it's like a big orgy thing where people hook up for sex apparently and i didnt want that so i took my stuff off there. but still spoke to a few ppl on msn from that site. i finally met one a few weeks ago - although hes SO HOT and i like him A LOT i keep thinking - online....and just wants me for sex... everytime i think of resorting to an online dating service i keep thinking, ok so when i have to explain to people how we met....i dont want to have to say, yeah we met online.

what about sports bars?

sporting events (school)

library?

i dont know anymore

 

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 10:21am
I did match.com It worked GREAT for me....although I know it does not work great for everyone. However, I found someone who is very nice and have been dating him actively for 4 months. We had JUST emailed and had phone conversations for 3 months prior to meeting. I did not have the guts to go out with him because I was unsure of the whole internet dating......when I FINALLY did....I did not regret it.
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Registered: 08-25-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 12:38pm
I am actually in the process of meeting a guy that recently met online. This Saturday, Oct. 9 will be the first time we will meet in person. We chat on IM and on the phone and we seem to click. He lives a bit away from me, but we both know similar areas between our homes. So he's coming down to see me on Saturday and hopefully everything works out. He is GORGEOUS, so I am hesitant to fully accept him, cause the whole sex thing could be his motivation. I will keep anyone that is interested, posted on my internet date. The downside is telling someone where you both met. Any questions, comments, suggestions?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 9:44am
rockicon...

Pianoguy wants to address your question and hockey babe's too. Hopefully, this response will help you both?

If you don't volunteer a lot of information about yourself during the first few dates, we'll get to know if we're comfortable with you or not. Just be your HONEST, CHARMING SELF and enjoy the good time you're having with the new b/f. .

The biggest mistake women make is 'over-evaluating a man' too quickly. While you might not want to waste your with somebody you don't feel compatible with...keep in mind that MEN feel the same way too! But in most cases...we'll usually know after the 1st or 2nd date. Admittedly...a few of us want to "get physical" on that 1st date...and you certainly don't have to reciprocate. But by the time date #3 rolls around, most guys know if they want to keep the relationship going with a woman who seems to be interested in us?

Sidenote to hockeybabe83...YES...you can connect with men who have interests that are similar to yours. But...I'd suggest you "tone down a little of the attitude" that you've shown us in a few of your earlier posts. It might be turning a few of your potential b/f's off?

Just a suggestion from...

Pianoguy

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 10:49am
i know what you mean about the whole wanting for sex part. i've been battling w/ that for a while and it's ruining a lot of relationships (b/w friends, family and dating)

the reason why i'm afraid to 'date' anyone that i met online is explaining to my family that well...yeah we met online.. so i've devised other 'stories' just in case

 

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 10:54am
< "tone down a little of the attitude" that you've shown us in a few of your earlier posts.>

i rarely post on this board b/c often times i dont find it to be helpful. like this girl just posted her problem when i was asking people where to try meeting people.

but whatever...i dont have an attitude i'm just a strong independent woman who is opinionated

i was out w/ a guy last night - it seems like they try for the sex regardless. this is about the 4th one. and i dont know what to believe from any of them anymore

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 11:23am
hockeybabe83...

Perhaps the men you've been seeing have a misconception about you? Or maybe the type of man you're searching for doesn't exist? .

It's just my 2 cents...but...

Independent women are GREAT and so are many of their opinions! Pianoguy admires them because they're usually capable of 'standing on their own 2 feet' without us.

However---there are some independent women (NOT ALL) who have the attitude that they're either superior to a man....or...that the man should feel priviliged that she's "blessing him with her presence?"

Males pick up on stuff like this...and in general, find that the "chase" isn't worth the time.

Pianoguy

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 2:06pm


i definitely do not act like that. but i hear you, and i understand that some women are like that. i feel privilged to meet someone new and get to know them for the person they are - regardless if it's going to be a friendship or turn into something more

 

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Registered: 10-16-2004
Sat, 10-16-2004 - 8:11am
I too, look for love in the wrong places. I have been to countless bars, grocery stores on Friday nights, the library, churches, etc. I don't know what the answer is other than to develop new friendships with both men and women. I think that networking is the key and it doesn't happen overnight.

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