Tired of Feeling Lonely and Bummed

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Tired of Feeling Lonely and Bummed
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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 4:10pm
Hi everyone, I'm new to the board and looking for a little guidance or positive reinforcement, I guess. My boyfriend and I are in a serious, loving relationship and I'm very happy with him (happier than I've ever been in my entire life). We are apart for half of the summer while we work and I'm not going to see him for another five weeks. He is living at home but I'm staying halfway across the country with relatives. I'm feeling totally isolated and alone. It doesn't help that he has been hanging out with his ex-gf a lot bc she is one of the few friends near his home. He has been completely open and honest with me, and I don't really worry that he's cheating. I guess I just feel jealous which makes me feel even worse. This is despite the fact that he calls multiple times a day just to say I love you and let me know what he's up to.

So basically, I'm trying to combat all these feelings of loneliness and jealousy and insecurity. I know five weeks seems like an incredibly short period of time, but to me, it feels so long and almost unbearable. Any thoughts on how to manage?

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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 4:44pm

Hello lawgirl!

 
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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 5:42pm
lawgirl...

Terry summed up everything perfectly.

Just one question...before you were involved with your current b/f...how did you manage to survive on your own? 5 weeks ISN'T 5 months or 5 years...and if there's an enrichment course or something you've always wanted to do FOR YOURSELF...why not schedule it during the time your b/f is away?

Once those 5 weeks are over, you'll greet him a little smarter than before he left, along with a kiss that'll knock his socks off!

Pianoguy

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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 5:49pm
maybe she could learn to play the piano???

 
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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 5:56pm
That makes sense. I think I'm really lacking in perspective. 5 weeks *isn't* that long. I'm pretty soft-hearted and just miss being around him. I know I can be okay by myself, but it's hard to be not near him. But I'll try and follow your advice and keep busy. Thanks for the help!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 6:19pm
Hmmm...

That's an interesting suggestion, Terry!

Maybe I should show her a few chords and how to...err..."curve her fingers?"

Pianoguy

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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 6:27pm
lawgirl...

I'm willing to bet that you'll find an alternative interest or two during the 5 weeks your b/f is away? If a course in learning to play piano isn't of interest (as Terry suggested earlier), I'll bet your professional background has enough fascinating stories to incorporate into the next "great American novel?"

Writing a little fiction (based on factual events) would certainly keep your mind occupied for those 5 weeks...wouldn't it?

You sound like a terrific, caring person to me...and I'm sure your b/f feels very lucky to be in your presence.

With good wishes always,

Pianoguy

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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 6:27pm
now now... don't get carried away... ;-)

 
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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 6:45pm
Terry...

You and I had similar Moms...and also similar ways of covering our homework assignments!

Without music of some sort, Pianoguy's life is a complete zero! (I'm listening to a batch of film scores from classic horror movies as I type this---and earlier today, I had a mix of Kenny Loggins, Avril Lavigne and Henry Mancini)!

As for learning to play the piano...have Carolyn teach you some chords. Once you've got a few of those down, you can work out the melody with the fingers in your right hand. And once you've got that down...I guess I'll need to start looking for a different profession?

You'll be taking my place at the piano bar and watching happy customers put 'bread' in your jar in appreciation of the tunes you can play!

Pianoguy (who had several nice compliments and some extra tip money Saturday night)

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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 6:55pm
(now that we have totally hijacked lawgirls' thread...)

 
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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 11:34pm
lawgirl,