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too early to end it?
| Sun, 10-15-2006 - 8:13pm |
hey everyone-
so ive been dating this guy since mid july. we were seeing each other about once a week, sometimes twice. this was partly due to both of us having hectic schedules, he works full time and is in grad school and im a nurse so work weird hours. on top of that his family lives out of state so he goes there about 2 weekends per month. i found that our relationship made very little progress over the past 2.5 to 3 months and realize its hard when u have bisy schedules but feel like not enough effort was being in from his side. i found that when we did see each other we had a lot of fun, but on the other hand he would go away for a weekend so see his family and would hear nothing from him until monday morning on his way home. i sorta felt like his "during the week" only dating partner and an occasional weekend when HE was available. to me if you are truly interested in someone you would want to stay more often and hang out on weekends and be more agressive about making some progress in the relationship. am i jumping to conclusions too soon, or am i on the right page by thinking it would have taken a turn for the better by now? i did breifly voice this to him and nothing changed after that except i think maybe e started communicating even less with me! i am not a very needy person at all and im not sure why nothing has progressed!!
so ive been dating this guy since mid july. we were seeing each other about once a week, sometimes twice. this was partly due to both of us having hectic schedules, he works full time and is in grad school and im a nurse so work weird hours. on top of that his family lives out of state so he goes there about 2 weekends per month. i found that our relationship made very little progress over the past 2.5 to 3 months and realize its hard when u have bisy schedules but feel like not enough effort was being in from his side. i found that when we did see each other we had a lot of fun, but on the other hand he would go away for a weekend so see his family and would hear nothing from him until monday morning on his way home. i sorta felt like his "during the week" only dating partner and an occasional weekend when HE was available. to me if you are truly interested in someone you would want to stay more often and hang out on weekends and be more agressive about making some progress in the relationship. am i jumping to conclusions too soon, or am i on the right page by thinking it would have taken a turn for the better by now? i did breifly voice this to him and nothing changed after that except i think maybe e started communicating even less with me! i am not a very needy person at all and im not sure why nothing has progressed!!

If you feel that there is potential with the man, then keep on dating him. Date casually at your own convenience. I, though, suspect that you'd date him just for the sake of dating. His flaws are overpowering his qualities. On the long run you'll be fed up with his lack of communication. Think a few months ahead...do you see yourself dating him still? Will you be fulilled with whatn he has to offer? If not, then move on to a more avalable and willing guy.
One thing that you could do is to date several men at the same time, so on the long run you'll be the choosing them an not all the way around.
Dating is hard these days. Men date several women to then choose the one they like best. Women should do the same. Unfortunatelly, women tend to cling to one man at a time.