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| Fri, 05-04-2007 - 4:02pm |
So here's my currrent story. I recently met a guy who is cute, friendly, smart, and chivalrous. I went out with him on Tuesday night and had a great date and great conversation. He immediately asked me if I wanted to hang out the next day or Thursday. I stated that I had a lot going on the next day, but maybe Thursday. Anyway, he called me Thursday (yesterday) to see if I was still interested in doing something. I figured why not, so I went out with him and a two of his friends (a guy and girl who have been dating for a while). Well now today he asked me if I wanted to rent a movie, but I told him nicely that I was busy. I am extremely flattered that he keeps asking me out so soon and it's really nice to know for sure that he's interested, however, is this too much, too soon??? He's 26 and I'm 22, so I am thinking maybe he's just more in the state where he wants to find a serious girlfriend, where I'm more just having fun (but not opposed to having a seriously bf). Also, let me just state we haven't even kissed yet. There's been some flirty touching, but that's it. So I know I haven't given away too much. So what do you all think?? Is there some other issue going on? Does he just not play by dating "rules?" Or does he just really feel into me? And how do I keep turning him down if he keeps asking me out so soon? I mean I am definitely interested, but I still want to maintain my distance and my own life!!

Based on the information you put into your post, I would say, that the guy is really into you. However, I cant' tell whether or not he is looking for a serious girlfriend. You will have to ask him that question to find out for sure.
As for it moving too fast, only you can gauge that for yourself. Everyone is different that way. My first husband and I spent 6 out of 7 days together when we were dating. If I was dating someone who I didn't care for as much or the same way it would probably be annoying.
No kissing after 2 dates? That's interesting. I have noticed alot of posts mentioning guys being slow to kiss these days. What's up with that? I dont' like that.
If you are not comfortable with him being himself (or spending much time with him), then you might want to reconsider dating him.
Hello and welcome!
I think you can still have a life yet have a guy who's into you as well. It sounds like he's into you and based on what you have said, no red flags are raised for me. He's not talking about future or marrying you, he's just showing how interested he is.
Is having a relationship something you're totally not into? If not, I would agree with snafu who say you'll have to ask him what he's looking for. But for now, relax!!! He likes you and wants you to know that. So long as you are ok with it, then enjoy it. I can't tell you how many women would love to be in your postion...
Keep us updated as to how things are going.
Just let him know you like him and want to continue getting to know him but for now at a slower pace