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Too good too fast?
| Sat, 04-08-2006 - 12:03am |
I met this guy online about a month ago. Things were great, and eventually he asked me to be exclusive on our third date. We talked about putting off having sex until later when we get to know each other better. However, the chemistry between us is so strong that we ended up making out and decided to have sex the next time we see each other. Right now I am having second thought about that decision. I still think that it would be better to put things off for a while and focusing on getting to know each other.
Should I tell him that? I'm afraid that I will make him feel bad since I seem to be changing my mind a lot about this issue. What do you guys think? Will having sex too early in a relationship destroy things?
Should I tell him that? I'm afraid that I will make him feel bad since I seem to be changing my mind a lot about this issue. What do you guys think? Will having sex too early in a relationship destroy things?

Hello,
Talk to him about how you're feeling you need to take some more time to get to know one another before taking that next step. If you need to wait, he should be understanding. If he's not, gets angry or reacts in a way that makes you feel bad or guilty, then that's definitely not a good thing. This will also be a good way to get to know him more.
From my point of view, each person/couple has to decide when the time is right to begin having sex/making love. There's absolutely no set rule in my opinion. I know couples (and have been part of couples) that have sex right away and it was just a natural part of the relationship and wasn't the root of any major problem, some wait a year or until they're married because that's what feels right for them. If something's telling you to wait, then I would listen to that.
L.