too many crushes?

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Registered: 02-27-2004
too many crushes?
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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 1:36pm
I remember once my college roommate talking about the girl he was currently pursuing. He said that he actually had about six or seven women he was interested in dating. That is he was sexually interested in them and if he could, he would date them all and have sex with them. I think there’s a Jackson Browne song where he talks about “seven women on my mind”.

I thought about this and decided, yeah, maybe this is how most guys are. I recently got into a discussion of this with my sister, who thinks it’s revolting that a guy would want to be doing it with a half dozen women at once if he could, basically going around with a fantasy harem. I reminded her of when she was dating several guys at once, not just wanting to but actually doing it. She replied that it wasn’t at all the same, that she was just casually dating a bunch of guys until she found someone she was really interested in. And that she has to know a guy for a while to have sexual interest, and as a rule she’s only interested in one guy at a time. (This is somewhat moot now in that she is married, very happily it appears.)

So here’s my question: are all guys really like this? And are women really pretty much the same or are they different?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-29-2004 - 1:58pm
I know some men like that and I also know that the men with whom I had serious relationships with - probably close to ten at this point were not like that and neither were the four men who proposed to me. On the other hand I think there are many women who male bash and generalize about men based on bad experiences they have had and chosen for themselves (such as getting drunk and going home with someone, and then criticizing the man for never calling them again). i also think many people fantasize at one time or another about sexual variety but fantasy is far different from the actions.
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Registered: 12-27-2003
Sun, 02-29-2004 - 8:37pm
remember...alot of guys are all talk. alot of guys exaggerate. as far as your answer, do most guys think like this? take a peak in a few men's magazines where they write about the nature of masculine sexuality and you will have an answer better than anyother source could provide.