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Too much info...now Im stuck with it...
| Sun, 04-04-2004 - 5:42pm |
I am dating a man, quite seriously, and we started out as friends. When we were friends, he was going through a painful breakup and shared alot with me about that. Like how she was the strongest mental and physical connection he had ever had, and he felt he'd never have that again. That the day he met her was the best day of his life. Well...now we date and Im just...stuck...with those words in my head. But my real question is this: They speak on the phone about once a week. Hes not secretive about this with me...If I say "so...talk with anyone this weekend?" in casual conversation, if he has spoken with her, he will tell me, and give me the updates on her life (not that I ask...believe me). Should I feel threatened by this??? Well I DO feel threatened...I guess Im wondering if I have a right to feel this way.

Should you feel threatened? Maybe - that is up to you to determine what threatens you based on how secure you are with the relationship. But, to me it sounds as though he hasn't and can't quite let go.
That being the case you only have 90% of him (don't hold me to the percentage!) - he is not truly emotionally commited to you and maybe that is what seems to be bothering you.
tg
It's a stressful situation, for sure, but not one that can't resolve the way you want it. You don't say how long you have been dating
Thanks for sharing.
Have a great evening.