Too physical too soon???

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Too physical too soon???
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 10:47am
I just had a second date with a guy I have known for awhile but never went out with. The first date we gave each other a peck on the lips goodbye after the date. The second date I stayed at his place and we made out with touching and kissing above the waist...nothing below the waist. I told him I don't want to get too physical too soon and that the level of physicalness we had thus far is as far as I was willing to take it for now.

We get along great....have a ton in common....and have high interest in each other. Even though we didn't have sex or go below the waist...did I let it go to far seeing that it was only our second date?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 11:27am









Honey


I had sex with my Hubby on our 1st date LOL and we have been together ever since so no you didn't go too far and as long as the guy respects you and is not dissing you I feel that you are wonderful and things will work out for you !! HUGS

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 11:43am
i don't think so. the fact you two have known each other makes things a little different. but definetly go at your speed and not what his/your hormones want. with women, we have to remember our emotional side to sex. whether we like it or not, we get more attached when we've had sex with a guy .... and i believe it complicates things unless you are exclusive before you have sex. i've had several occassions ive slept with the guy too soon. and its never turned into something more serious. partly because i slept w/ him too soon. always exceptions, but i think waiting is a good thing. ive been the other side for a long time, and recently i started dating without having sex so soon. its better for me.

and more simple.

but again, ive known several poeple who have had sex on the 1st/2nd date and are married :-). so you just never know. guage the speed on how you feel about you dating the guy and the trust level you've got.

good luck