too young?

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Registered: 06-17-2004
too young?
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Thu, 06-17-2004 - 2:18pm
Hi my name is Diane..I'm new here..and I have had questions on my mind about my relationship for some time...I'm only 17, but i have a boyfriend (also 17) and we are both entering our senior year in high school. We have been dating for 1 year and 6 months..neither of us were looking for a long term relationship. well we are both in love(or what we think is love)...we respect each other, enjoy each others company, have so much fun together..he is my best friend and we have a very good relationship..we even plan on living together in the future(he tells me he wants to take care of me) but my question is, are we too young? to be in love? to be thinking about a future together? I am afraid that this will cause us a troubled future. Also, I am confused on what to do after high school, when I go to college, if my 'youth' won't be as fun with a serious boyfriend..I am not the party girl type(I am still a virgin) so I think I can manage, but I just need some advice from experienced women on what to do or what to think about. Is this just another "highschool sweetheart" or is this real??? PLEASE help. sorry it's so long..Thank you for reading and giving me your time..

Diane
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Registered: 10-12-2003
In reply to: sweetangel1426
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 8:57pm
Hi Angel,

Only one person can answer whether or not he's the one for you--you. It sounds like you have your head on straight, you're not having sex and not complicating things. I know both types of people: Those who have been with their high school or college sweethearts and those who need to explore the field. It's all up to you really. The fact that you're asking makes me think that maybe you want to explore? If that's the case, then you have to take a look at that.

To me, the grass can always be greener on the other side. Yes, you're young. Yes, this is your first love. But that doesn't mean it's a bad thing... And it doesn't mean you'll find something better out there.

My advice? Take your time, get to know you better and keep getting to know him. And see if he is what you want in the end... And trust yourself.

I hope this helps. Keep us posted.

 

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Registered: 05-26-2004
In reply to: sweetangel1426
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:31pm

Let me tell you why people discourage "young love"

Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 06-20-2004
In reply to: sweetangel1426
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 2:32pm
You are in love the way a 17 yr. old can be "in love". The simple fact that you are asking for advice from the women in here pretty much answers your own questions. You need to do more growing as a woman. Do you want to commit to someone at this age and 10 years down the road wonder "what the ----have I done". You have way to many experiences yet to be experienced. I was 17 when I first fell in love, was with him for 5 yrs. He went into the army, met someone else, got engaged to her, and somehow forgot to tell me about her. Hmmmmm. AND< all this time we were talking about OUR future together, even talking about our wedding colors. Ever heard the term "young and dumb"? Well, that was my guy. But, having had that experience, I definitely learned from it. Right now, you are in an "experience", take it for what it is. Don't question it, go with your heart, listen to yourself, go with the flow and take things as they come.