Too young for a commitment?

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Registered: 08-20-2004
Too young for a commitment?
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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 3:53pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now... the "problem" in question is that I'm 19 and in college, so I often wonder if I should be single because he is my first SERIOUS relationship. The problem is, I am in love with him and can see myself married to him after I graduate. If we break up, I'm afraid he will fall for another girl, yet I am willing to go out and have fun myself... I just know it will be hard the majority of the time without him. What should I do??? If we break up I might lose the best guy I've ever met... If we stay together I might keep wondering I missed "the college life"...
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 5:22pm
Life is all about experience when you are young. It seems like when we are in a relationship we just want to have fun and then when we aren't in one we wish we were. Love is an important part of life and I think it can only be pure and honest if you haven't denied yourself certain experiences. On the other hand, finding the person you can see yourself marrying at any point in life is truly a blessing. Follow your heart.
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Registered: 08-17-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:26pm


If your really in love with him and meant to be together I believe you will be. But splitting up maybe the hardest thing ever. I myself am young and have just entered into my first serious relationship but what I have with my boyfriend and what I think it could be in the future to me is wayyyy more important than a "colleage life" as it were, yeh it can all seem fun but at the end of the day will it be worth it? Even if you did split up, you may find yourself always thinking about him anyway and might not enjoy it as much as you thought. You could give you and him a try and if it doesnt work out and you split up during colleage then go for anything.

My boyfriend actually split up with his girlfriend because she was going to university, think there were a few other things involved but that was the main thing. She moved on and has been with a guy for a year now and I know it has taken him a lot of pain and time to get over her and he still thinks of her, yet I know they won'tget back together and he is starting to move on with me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 2:21pm
If you break up, you will let go of the best relationship of your teenage years. I think you deserve the time to have fun and get out there and learn things...take full advantage of being young and beautiful and smart and have a great time in college, in your first apartment, in your first career. As you continue to grow up and discover yourself, you will have other relationships. They will be stupid, more meaningful, an entire range of experiences. And what's wrong with that? Everyone has a special place in their heart for their first love, but first love doesn't equate THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE. Don't cling to him out of fear, that's a mistake and it's disrespectful to the both of you.