Torn and Confused
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| Sun, 11-26-2006 - 11:52pm |
Okay, I am very torn. I am seeing a guy named Christian, this guy who is great (I know, how hard it must be for me!!!!)...anyways, here is just an overview. Christian is 20 years older than I am and looking to have a very committed long term relationship. I am his first *actual* relationship. He is totally in love with me. I am attracted to his heart. He is so friggin good to me. But I lack the sexual attraction that I feel I should have towards him. I am not as comfortable sexually as I have been with other people in the past. Now on the flip side of the coin I have a guy named Jason who I am **VERY** sexually attracted to who has a very mutual attraction to me. He is someone I was friends with about five years ago and randomly walked into my coffeeshop (I am a Starbucks barista) about 6 months ago and we immediately hit it off again. This is before Christian and I hooked up. Well, Jason was very busy with work and moving and didnt call me for a month. We hooked up, and again time went by and then same thing. (I didnt call him either, im busy too!!! Dont be mad at him.) Now he calls me about once a week to see how I am doing (recently injured) and asks me to go over since he has his own place now. I avoid it because I have been seeing Christian. I am a bad person and havent mentioned Christian to him. I think I just dont want to lose him, but I dont think I would, thats the weird part. But Jason wants a relationship too!!!! I am torn, they are both such good people. There are so many more details involved as many of you know. but I dont want to write any more of a novel than I already have. Any advice would be sssssoooovery much appreciated.
Thanks,
Morrigan

The short answer, if you are attracted to Jason, go with Jason.
An older gentleman who has never had a "real" relationship and which you have no romantic chemistry is going to be a problem.