Torn in two

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Torn in two
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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 4:04pm
To make this short and to the point, I began dating someone a year ago, with a lot of the qualities I wanted in a man, charming and polite, great sexual chemistry, family man, spiritual. What he lacks is he is not career oriented AT ALL or financially savvy in any way. His checks bounce, doesnt pay his bills on time...a disaster. He is in his late 30's and this worries me because I have always been career oriented, financially secure and on the ball with my future. He is more of a day by day kind of guy. On the other hand, I have always had what I consider a wonderful guy friend who in some ways is exactly like me (financially stable, great head on his shoulders, makes me laugh, can entertain a room :), but inexperienced with sex. We have had clumsy moments at times and im not sure if this is something that is fixable.
There both in love with me, and I too love them in different ways. What to do?
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Registered: 12-06-2004
In reply to: whoismyromeo
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 5:18pm

I definitely would *not* go for the guy who is in his mid-30's and bounces checks. That's the sort of guy who will ruin you financially. I am financially responsible and I demand that my partner be as well.


As for the other guy, if you don't feel any chemistry, then you should pass on him too. There are a lot more men out there than just these 2!! If you are attracted to him, but he just hasn't had the experience, well, there's a way to fix that...

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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: whoismyromeo
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 9:35pm
Neither one seems right for you. A guy like the check bouncer could derail everything you have worked for and the other one may leave you frustrated and looking for more.