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| Tue, 04-20-2004 - 10:00pm |
i'm living in a foreign country and i met a guy. we had major chemistry from the start. 2 weeks after we met, i found out he has a girlfriend (he lied about it). but she's in another country. i knew from the start that what we would have wasn't gonna be anything serious because he's leaving in a few months, but i could handle that. i can't handle the girlfriend thing. i decided to jsut go with it. but now i can't do it anymore. he seems to be losing interest. we don't have good conversations, we actually have nothing to say anything to each other but call every night. i know i need to leave him, but i'm so lonely in this country that i feel if i leave him i'm gonna break down. not because i don't have him, but because i'm lonely. i only know him for about 2 months.
i was with another guy for about 4 months and was falling in love with him, but scared him off cause he's scared of people 'liking him'. he had problems growing up. i miss him so much, but he doesn't even want to talk to me anymore.
what do i do???????

One question: HOW CLINGY ARE YOU?
If the answer is "Very"---then back off a little and realize that there are other things you need in life than just a boyfriend! From the sound of your post...you've built your entire world on two different men who (while they seem to like you) aren't going to regard you as exclusive or the only important person in their lives.
Part of the fun of the "chase" is to keep the other person guessing. Why not try a more casual approach to your next relationship and let your next b/f work at courting you?
Perhaps the end result will be a little happier? Best of luck.
Pianoguy
Staying with someone because you are afraid of being alone just doesn't work... you still end up unhappy.
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