Tough Situation

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Registered: 06-08-2004
Tough Situation
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 10:06pm
I am currently 21 dating a 19 year old guy. Normally I have never dated anyone younger than me but I have never been as happy as I am now. There's one big problem though, my family is very unhappy about it. They think he is basically "not good enough for me" because of age, and the fact that I will be graduating college in a year while he still has 3. They think he is a liar and they don't trust him either. I have only been dating him for 4 months and think he is one of the most wonderful people in the world. He is the nicest and sweetest guy I have ever met. He was always so nice and personable with my family and wonderful with my 1 year old niece. I like and care about him so much but my family disliking him is really bothering me. I don't want to make my family unhappy but I don't want to lose him either. He really hasn't done anything to them not like him but they still think "he's a nice guy...but not for you". What should I do? Thanks!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 10:20pm
Little Italy...is your family interfering because they have their interest at heart or yours? Sometimes we're so into how we FEEL about someone that we can't see obvious things that drive our loved ones bonkers. Do you have some reason to distrust the people who have been at your side all these 21 years? I would listen to what they have to say and remember who's talking to you, the people who know and love you best.

At four months, you don't know this guy very well...you might be falling in love with him and your hormones might be on overdrive, but know him well enough to get into headaches with your family over him? I don't think so.

What do your friends have to say about him? And do you trust them to tell the truth to your face? At 21 I wasn't brave enough to tell my best friend what a horrible creep her fiance was, but everyone else talked about him behind her back. And we were all proven right...he beat her and everything.

Just proceed with caution, is all. If the people around you are getting nervous...there might be something to it.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 12:55pm
Well where does the "liar" accusation come from?
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