Tricky Ex Issue
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Tricky Ex Issue
| Mon, 11-08-2004 - 12:46am |
When I was 14, I met this really great guy. We dated and had the usual high school on-again, off-again relationship. We finally decided (about grade 10) to stop the juvenile games, and from that point on, we were just good friends. I moved away, and we lost contact. When I moved back again, he was thrilled to see me, and I him, and we picked up right where we left off. Towards the end of grade 13 we decided to give it another shot, realizing that we cared for each other considerably.
We dated for two and half years and were talking marriage (I had a promise ring and things were OK, so far as I knew). I had a trip planned with one of my girlfriends for a weekend away in the summer and when I returned, everything had changed drastically. I didn't understand how it happened, or what exactly "it" was, but he broke up with me.
Since then, he and I have both had other relationships, but remained friends, as always, although things were a little strained at the beginning.
Now, we have both ended up single and we try to maintain a healthy friendship, without messing it up by fooling around with each other (and we haven't), but I can't help but still feel the same things I ahve always felt for him. I can't even begin to tell him this. Now in my twenties, I figured I'd be over the school-girl jitters and butterflies in my stomach, but I can't. Every time I see him, I get all clammy and nervous and I want to scream at the top of my lungs that I love him. I don't even know if it's worth my time to pursue anything with him anymore, or to run the risk of ruining a great friendship that has taken a long time to rebuild.
I guess what I'm asking is: Is it OK to pursue an ex that has broken your heart numerous times and put you through a lot of emotional and physical stress? Is the possible heartache even worth the risk?
We dated for two and half years and were talking marriage (I had a promise ring and things were OK, so far as I knew). I had a trip planned with one of my girlfriends for a weekend away in the summer and when I returned, everything had changed drastically. I didn't understand how it happened, or what exactly "it" was, but he broke up with me.
Since then, he and I have both had other relationships, but remained friends, as always, although things were a little strained at the beginning.
Now, we have both ended up single and we try to maintain a healthy friendship, without messing it up by fooling around with each other (and we haven't), but I can't help but still feel the same things I ahve always felt for him. I can't even begin to tell him this. Now in my twenties, I figured I'd be over the school-girl jitters and butterflies in my stomach, but I can't. Every time I see him, I get all clammy and nervous and I want to scream at the top of my lungs that I love him. I don't even know if it's worth my time to pursue anything with him anymore, or to run the risk of ruining a great friendship that has taken a long time to rebuild.
I guess what I'm asking is: Is it OK to pursue an ex that has broken your heart numerous times and put you through a lot of emotional and physical stress? Is the possible heartache even worth the risk?
