Tricky situation
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Tricky situation
| Sun, 03-28-2004 - 10:20pm |
About a month ago, I was introduced to this great guy by a mutual friend. I had been in the process of looking for a new church, and this friend invited me to come to visit hers since we're members of the same denomination. She had also been wanting to introduce me to this guy for a while, and saw it as the perfect opportunity. I have started going on a regular basis, because I like the people there and they make me feel welcome. I really like this guy and from what she has said, it sounds like the feeling may be mutual since he has asked her on several occasions to make sure I keep coming back. However, how do I get him to even ask for my number? I asked our friend to "work on it" so to speak, but she said she won't since she tried to "set him up" before and he gets furious when outside people interfere. What do I do? Is it just that the two of us are too timid to make the first move? I have tried to make the first move in the past with guys and it has never worked out. It's also a little tricky since it's at church. It's a bit awkward, in my opinion. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

I think it's fine for you to make the first move but I have found that it is not really effective if you want a relationship to do the asking out early on - I agree with you.
Or you could try the more direct approach and ask him if he'd like to accompany you for lunch one Sunday after the service.