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Trubles
| Thu, 10-21-2004 - 6:02pm |
I was wondering if anyone had an idea or a solution in which i can hear about me and my boyfriend that has been dating for a year and 7 months. I have noticed in the last 5 months that it is always what he wants to do and if i do something like hang out with friends he gets jelous and when i get jelous he gets mad. Then also when i have time it seems like i am always making the effort to see him. I am always the one who is calling him and the one who is always e-mailing him and i have to aqlmost beg him to do thoes things. When i see him we usually just end up sitting around and he is to tired from doing things with his friends . Which his friends are really immature. And i personally do not like them and i have not told him that but i do not really care about them really. I am not waisting my time. But there is also a thing where when we have plans he tends to have plans right after and it makes me feel like i am not good enough. You know. and then when i see him i am very fed up with all this and i am not sure what to do or how to talk to him. I think that he is clueless when it comes to this and that he thinks that it is just me looking at the negative side of things. Yet i just had a good friend pass away and i told him and he never even asked how i was. I am really tired of this. Any ideas? Please? I am scared that he might get mad or that he will leave me and i am not wanting that. But i mean he has almost cornerd me...

hunniebunches...
Have you ever considered the idea that YOU have "outgrown" your b/f? It happens!!!
It's clear from your post that you'd like something more than you're experiencing! His friends bother you...sitting around is a drag...and you're walking on eggshells because you have to choose your words carefully? Why the heck would you want to waste your time with a selfish, self-centered, wacko like this???
He CAN'T be "the only boy" who has ever taken an interest in you? Wake up and make a few changes. If the creep threatens to harm you...call the police, have him arrested and have a restraining order processed!
Nobody should live in fear like you apparently are!
Pianoguy
A GREAT GREAT guy.. I am not sure what you think and i can tell now that what you wrote from what you read i do not really care.
I know that he is great because he would never ever hurt me in anyway and i know this for a fact.. I could be with someone worse like some one who does beat me and harrass me. and so on. But i am not i am with a really great person. He is a human being to. I have never really questioned anyones flaws because i know that everyone has them and if we were to never have them then we would all be perfect and as i can tell we are not.
All i was asking for in my article was for someone to give me and idea on what to do so that we could both do it and both be interested and both be happy. Not just what he would like to do. Any way that i could you know present him with an idea, you know.. anywho.
Thanx for your reply, but you may want to think about how you word your replys. It seems like you know what you are talking about but i do not think that you technically do. Where you would get those "WACKO" ideas? But anyway..
Pianoguy's "wacko ideas" were based on the words you used in your original post. The man you're with might be GREAT in your eyes, but you certainly didn't give me (and probably one or two other ivillagers) that impression.
HOWEVER...
If you feel you can be happy living with a selfish, egotistical man who obviously has no respect or consideration for you or your feelings...then I guess you both are "a match made in heaven?"
Pianoguy