The True Player?

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Registered: 05-29-2004
The True Player?
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 1:40am
Im currently seeing this guy and everything about him seems to good to be true. I've never dated a guy with his qualities. He is very mysterious and doesnt say much about himself, but ask me a ton of questions about me. Its like he doesnt care? He's tall dark handsome,very clean cut and well built. Great personality. Positive attitude.Extremely confident. Doesnt drink nor smoke. Works with kids, an athlete. He dresses very good. He always matches, always dressing up. Doesnt wear jeans out to a club when we go. He'll wear really fancy white clothes. He has his own place and a sports car. All these things i see, but he doesnt really talk about. He keeps his answers short. He's very respectful towards me, and does show affection,and when he's with me, all his eyes and attention are on me. Ive never dated one of these, so is there anything i should watch for?? Something's telling me i cant trust him?
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 11:03am
Are you typically the jealous type? Don't trust alot of men? Or is this one of the few times? There is alot to be said about female intuition. I would question why he never talks about himself. Always trust your instints--but just keep an open mind. Maybe these are insecurities that are making you feel that you are not good enough, why would he want me? etc. Maybe these things are playing on your mind and making you feel you can't trust him. Just be aware of how you are feeling inside and if you see any real evidence of not being able to trust him then end it pronto.
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 11:40am
how's this.....date him, and in time, you'll find out for yourself! to tell the truth, this kind of angers me because i'm much like who you described, and alot of women, truth be told, will stay away and ASSUME i'm a 'player'????? as in, how's a guy like this single??? there MUST be something wrong? PLEASE....

assume nothing, and enjoy the ride, you'll answer your own questions shortly....

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 11:51am
ALWAYS trust your gut intuition- but give this guy a chance until his actions tell you otherwise. He's given you no reason to question his intentions so far.
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Registered: 05-29-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 2:27pm
Yes i am "very jelous". I have been cheated on many times, and now i find it extremely difficult to trust any man!
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 2:34pm
I also the jealous type and have lost many relationships (mostly on my part) because of it. And I deeply regret it. Give the guy a chance-one day you will meet the one that is right and you can trust completely--maybe he's the one??
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Registered: 05-29-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 2:00am
bump

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 1:12pm
Its really tough trying to discern what is gut instinct and what is plain ol' fear.
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 05-29-2004
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 10:03pm
No. Its just his status. The way he carries himself. He's the strong silent type. I have just never dealt with a guy like this. Most guys i have dated were loud, drinkers, etc.. your frat boy type
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Registered: 06-13-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 10:13am
Hmm well I recently had a somewhat similar situation and his mysterious way was due to two reasons - 1. his job is secretive - kind of spills over into his personal aura, and trained to be conscious of revealing too much of himself and 2. he wasn't over his ex-girlfriend ... this was baggage, which I'm sure you guy probably doesn't have, but if you suspect something is not right, just be cautious. Leave the initating of dates to him for a while and see what he does. good luck, I really hope it works out for you, he sounds like a catch and a half.