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| Wed, 09-28-2005 - 1:05pm |
so iam a 16 year old girl... guys like me and ive had a lot of proposels but i refused them all becouse iam not allowed to date.... my parents give me a lot of freedom and trust me blindly so if i go out with guys i feel gilty and i dont want to lose their trust.... and ive always been ok of not dating but rescetly i met this guy that i really like and he likes men too and asked me out but i refuesed, we r still talking as friends but i want as to be more thaan that...... so shall i not betrayed my parents and live sadly and away from my cruch or be happy but lose their trust???????
please help..........
please help..........

I'd try to have an honest discussion with your parents. I am sure your parents have your best interest at heart, but the down side of not letting a young lady date is that you gain no dating experience while living under their roof, and then you basically get thrown to the dating dogs when you move out of their house at 18.
Perhaps they may be persuaded to let you go out on a coffee date during daytime hours. If things go well they may expand your dating life to include evening dates.
sasy19...
Pianoguy (who has been a parent twice) would like to ask you two questions:
"ARE YOUR PARENTS PROVIDING EVERYTHING NECESSARY FOR YOU TO MAINTAIN A HAPPY LIFE?"
OR
"ARE YOU COMPLETELY SUPPORTING YOURSELF---AND MOM AND DAD ARE MERELY 'GENETIC FIGURES" WHO DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING FOR YOU?"
Be honest with your answer...okay? Anyway...here's the deal...
If Mom and Dad "are paying your way"...you OWE them respect! They're role is to guide and educate you....and hopefully, help you avoid making stupid connections with men who want only ONE THING from YOU!
When the time arrives when you become a completely self supporting, independent woman---the rules change---which means you can socialize when and with whomever you wish!
I'm sure you've heard this before, but at the age of 16...you have MORE POSSIBILITIES for living a HAPPY ADULT LIFE than you can POSSIBLY IMAGINE!!!
Give Mom and Dad the chance to 'guide you along' a little bit longer, PLEASE???
Trust me....you're gonna miss 'em like crazy when they're no longer around to help you solve a problem, offer you emotional support when you've been through a terrible personal (or professional) experience, or...if necessary...'bail you out of jail!'
Pianoguy