trying to figure it out...

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Registered: 07-16-2005
trying to figure it out...
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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 11:12pm
I met my friend's ex-roommate in a club recently and we werer attractive to each other at that night. Then he asked me out, well...most of time with other friends. We got together twice and kissed each other, but he didn't want to move further, he said he wanted to take it slow. It is okay to me, but I haven't heard from him in the past week although he said he would call me later when we met last time. Does it mean he lost interest with me?? He seems to be good guy but I really don't know what he's thinking. Should I ask him out or I should wait for his call?
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Fri, 07-29-2005 - 12:12pm
I don't necessarily think he's lost interest. It sounds like he really does want to take things slowly, which can be a really good thing. I guess if it were me I'd just leave things as they are. When you meet, you meet. Maybe you could show up where he likes to go, with friends, etc.? That's probably all I would do since it doesn't really sound like there's been any communication about a relationship between the two of you. Men like it when a woman is patient. On the other hand, you could call but I wouldn't. When it comes to courtship, the ball seems to be in the man's court most of the time. Maybe it's because they seem to be able to quit relationships easier than women, engage in non-emotional liasons, etc. Good luck.
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Fri, 07-29-2005 - 12:20pm

ambery2005....

The man is either involved with work or some other diversion? Hopefully...it's NOT another woman?

What's wrong with sending him a 'snail-mail' friendship card....NOTHING MUSHY, but perhaps with a little humor....along with a short note that says:

"How long do I have to wait to receive ANOTHER NICE KISS from you?"

Seal it and mail it! DON'T CALL HIM! It's now his responsibility TO CALL YOU!

Good Luck!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Fri, 07-29-2005 - 2:22pm
Thanks for the suggestions...I will try to be patient for a while, but I am still confused about his feeling about me, I am guessing...he might really want to start a serious relationship, take it slowly, or want to enjoy single life for a while, or he is interested in someone else, and also i am worried about if I had shown my respect/attention about him enough, since I said to him I was busy on Tuesday and Wednesday last week, could only make it on Thursday when he asked me out a week ago, which I thought it's reasonable. Some people is just so difficult to read.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 07-29-2005 - 2:23pm
Just back off and take it slow. I know we all tend to get over-anxious when a guy we like doesn't call us back. But in my experience, if you chase after him, it drives him away even faster. Act like you don't care and like you have a life of your own and either he will come running or he won't. But either way, you have to let him do the pursuing - no matter how hard it is! Seems silly and old-fashioned, but that is the way most guys seem to like it. Good luck!

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:55pm
So now it's been another week, I still haven't heard from him, should I keep waiting?? I kinda lost patience, really want to find out what's going on...I think most likely he doesn't want to see me any more.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:46pm
I hate to say it but if he really wanted to ask you out, he probably would have called by now. I know it is much easier said than done, but don't take it too personally. Maybe he met someone else. Maybe he really isn't ready for a relationship. Chances are it isn't your fault or anything you did. Also chances are that you will not ever find out what's going on. Just move on and find a new guy. Sorry he flaked on you - good luck!

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