Two guys, how do I pick?

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Registered: 04-12-2006
Two guys, how do I pick?
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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 8:52pm

Right now there are two guys in my life and I am just wondering if someone can help me to see another side of things. I'll try not to make it too much of a bore for you! So I have known the first one, "Brent", since the beginning of the school year, about 8 months, and ever since he has flirted with me. We seem to know eachother really well and always have something to talk about. He is a really funny guy and he definitely knows how to have fun which is what I'm sure everybody is looking for in a guy! Its a unanimous opinion among everyone who sees us together that he likes me, but I'm not sure if he knows I feel the same way because I'm not very open about my feelings.

Then there is another guy, "Kyle", but I have not known him for very long at all. However, he says he has liked me for the longest time, ever since I got my job last summer, and he even got a job at the same place because of me! He has told me that he bought me flowers on valentines day but was too afraid to give them to me, and that he looks forward to talking to me every single day. I feel really flattered but at the same time, really afraid. He seems like a really nice guy and he's cute and everything. I know that if I ever went out with him I probably wouldn't have to worry about him flirting with other girls or not paying attention to me, like a lot of other girls worry about in their relationships. But I also know he would expect something long-term even if I wasn't really into him. And I really REALLY don't want to hurt his feelings by just blowing him off. I think if I wasn't already crushing on "Brent" I would definitely give "Kyle" a chance but now I just don't know what to do. Please help!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 1:36pm

I know a lot of people are uncomfortable dating two people at the same time, but honestly, you shouldn't have to CHOOSE at this point.

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Registered: 08-15-2005
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 2:32pm

I agree with Vexer. That's a good, very sensible idea. Go on dates with them. You do not have to be exclusive with them, at this point.

Ultimately, pick someone who you are most compatible with, happiest with...someone who gives you peace of mind, someone dependable, with a long-term potential. If a guy is just out there to "have fun", then, however good the chemistry, I don't think it's worth it. U will end up getting hurt later. Unfortunately, we can't have it all. And making a choice isn't easy, in some situations. Take heart.....for now, take it real slow with them, and see where it leads you.