Typical male?

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Registered: 01-01-2006
Typical male?
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Fri, 10-13-2006 - 12:50am
If a guy likes to talk about sex or is always referring to/making sexual statements does that mean he's not boyfriend material. Even if he really is a good guy?
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 12:57am
Is this male an acquaintance, friend or coworker of yours? If this guy likes to talk about sexual stuff, but you don't have a close/personal relationship I'd say that his interest is in getting into your pants. He wants to set the theme and then see your reaction. Good guys also like to talk about sex.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 12:41pm

There's clearly a whole lot more that determines whether a guy is "boyfriend material"... starting with is he INTERESTED in dating you, and is he interested in being ANYONE's boyfriend now or in the future?

In terms of him being a sex talker, I personally would be annoyed and offended if a man made sexual jokes, comments and suggestions toward me all the time. Usually, someone who talks that way is testing the waters to see how accepting you are and what his chances might be of getting you into bed. Not my cup of tea.

There's always the chance that he's putting on some kind of show for you because he has gotten the idea that dirty talk is funny, or makes him seem more appealing, cool or macho. If you really think he's a good guy, in spite of his potty mouth, then I would just tell him to lay off the dirty talk and jokes. You don't find it funny or cool and it's inappropriate. If he persists then, no, he's definitely not boyfriend OR friend material. Just steer clear of him altogether.

Good luck.

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Registered: 01-01-2006
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 8:02pm
He's a friend of mine, and and everyone just jokes about sex, it's nothing really offensive, just in good fun (sorry I should have said that first!).
Thanks for the advice guys, I'll definatly take them into consideration!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 1:25pm

Well I would say you're not a prude but it makes you a bit uncomfortable that he

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Registered: 01-01-2006
Sun, 10-15-2006 - 3:26pm
He's had past relationships. He doesn't agree with cheating, it's like if you're going to do something you might as well breakup because it's not working. He lis a flirt, but very good with people. He asks about their day, things in their lives, ect. He's very good with making girls feel good about themselves (ie. he answers his phone as "hey beautiful" to some of my friends, but I havn't gotten that yet). Brings gifts back from trips, just generally a good guy it would seem. The sexual comments don't really bother me, it's just that I'm worried to put the effort into something that's not going to work.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 10:08pm
True, sex is a pretty common topic among good and not so good guys!
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