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| Mon, 01-02-2006 - 7:59pm |
I have been in a trans-continental relationship with someone for two years. It became more intesnse and he lived with me for the past two months, celebrated holidays with my family, attend my sister's wedding, bought me jewelry and gifts, romanced me to know end..
Upon going back to England, he got caught by his live in girlfriend , by her intercepting one of my christmas cards.( I had no idea he had a live in girlfriend). Until I recieved a letter from her 2 days befor christmas. So he coldly ended things with me. This man sent me almost 200 pictures of himself and his home, daily emails and several phone calls a day. I still can't believe this is real.. He is still calling & telling me the loss he has over losing me, but it was always doomed from the start. I am so angry and upset...
If anyone knows why this behavior occurs, please let me know
I'm still in shock...

Some people get an emotional high from interpersonal relationships. Since lying doesn't seem to bother them and they can conduct the relationship via email at work and by cell phone calls, they can string two people along or more.
My suggestion is to date men closer to home where you can get a feel for who they are, where the live, how they live, etc.
The guy is obviously a sociopath - he doesn't have a conscience so couldn't understand how wrong it was to lead this double life. You have aright to be angry and upset, to vent with people you trust -perhaps a shrink as well. You need to work thru this as much as possible now so that it doesnt haunt you in future.
I hope you gave this jerk the what for and he knows never to bother you again