Understanding MEN

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Registered: 07-22-2003
Understanding MEN
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 3:12pm
Heres my story, any advice would help

So I met this guy at a bar(were both 21)...he asked for my number and called me the next day to make plans for dinner....we had a great time and found we had so much in common it was scary. After the date he kissed me and said we should do this again sometime. He hadn't called for 3 days so I called him and left a message thanking him for dinner and wondering if he'd like to go out again. He called me back an hour later said he was at his parents house...and we decided to go out that saturday night...meet (since I had to be somewhere before that) at a bar since he had plans to go there with some friends already, as did I. He called me when I was on my way there saying he couldn't wait to see me and then again while I was at the bar telling me where he was at. After the bar I went back to his place...right across the street and we sat and talked for awhile, he gave me his coat(said I could keep and a book I wanted to borrow). We made out a little bit and he kept referencing the future and saying he was going to make time for me (he is very busy with school). He kept saying how beautiful I was and made me promise to call when I got home to say I was there. But its been 2 days, and he still hasn't called. How long should I wait, should I call him or would that be to overeager? Do you think he is just scared or busy?
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 3:50pm
Its only been two days and you already now he is busy with school. Relax. I'm sure he will call, no need to jump to conclusions. Give it another day or so.
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Registered: 07-02-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 3:53pm
This may sound odd but I don't think he is interested.

MB

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 3:54pm
Don't call him. Wait and let him pursue you if he's interested in doing so. Chasing him and initiating all the calls and dates can make it seem like you're desperate. You called him once and invited him out, you've shown you are interested in him. Now let him have the opportunity to show he's interested in return. If he doesn't call, then you'll have a very clear answer on that.