unsure about our status

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Registered: 11-11-2005
unsure about our status
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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 3:20pm

a few months ago, i met this guy in another country while we were doing volunteer work. and the way we got together was quite weird. i was attracted to him when we first met but i didn't do anything since i wasn't sure if he had a girlfriend back home. however, he flirted with me. when i learned that he was single, i started flirting back.

on the night of his birthday, we were having a little celebration and we got drunk. we then started kissing and he told me that he was attracted to me and asked me to be his girl and i said yes. the next day, i was a bit unsure if what happened the night before was a serious thing. but then he gave me a kiss when we met, so that told me that he was still fully rational when he asked me even though he was drunk.

fast forward to now. we're both back home but i haven't seen him for a month now since we both live in different cities and we're both broke, which means that we can't afford to see each other just yet.

lately, i've been wondering what our status is. he's the first guy i've been with so (honestly, and in a funny way) i'm not really sure how it works. is he my boyfriend? are we dating? i already slept with him but he didn't force me into doing it with him. also, there are times that i think that maybe he wasn't being serious with me. i've always been the one to call him and when i told him about that, he just said that it's because he's the type of person who can't be bothered to call sometimes. it also feels like i'm in an emotional rollercoaster. he's a great guy but he's giving me mixed signals.

i got quite upset about this uncertainty so i sent him an email asking him if he is really being serious with me. i sent it two days ago but i haven't received a reply yet but he did tell me that his computer was acting up the last time i called him.

should i wait for his reply or should i talk to him about it? i don't want to keep on assuming things. i want to know what he sees us as... are we dating? are we exclusive? are we a couple? i'm confused. i want to know him better and even though we're far from each other, i'm willing to give this a go. i'm also quite wary that i might make him feel as if i'm cornering him if i talk to him about this. i need advice on what i should do.

thanks in advance!




Edited 11/11/2005 3:25 pm ET by lucillejoy
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 12:56am

So you got together while abroad, slept together, and now that you're back home he hasn't bothered to call or make any attempts to contact you?

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