Unsure if the Guy Is Interested or Uninterested

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Unsure if the Guy Is Interested or Uninterested
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Tue, 12-25-2012 - 8:50pm

I was talking to this one guy since Friday night at 1AM on and off. Then Sunday night around 8PM we talked over Tango and he said he would call me back in 5 minutes and never did but he did text me later on that night around 1:30AM saying "Goodnight". Monday and today come and go and I even texted him as I did my other family and friends saying "Merry Christmas" and he did not call, text, or tango call me at all between Monday and today.

What I also noticed was Sunday we did talked a bit and then I told a him a lot of different things and I could just feel like he wasn't interested in talking to me as much as before for some reason. So now I am up in the air wondering on if he is interested or he isn't interested in me. What should I do?

Should I call him or text him tomorrow or just leave him be?

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 12-25-2012 - 9:53pm

  This is a fantasy.  You are in a dream.  Meet him and see what the feelings are. 

Goldfish

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Tue, 12-25-2012 - 10:42pm

I guess so.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 12-26-2012 - 10:16am

Don't contact him and see what happens.  I assume you don't really know this guy but found him through OLD or something like that? What has been my experience (and why I turned off IM on those sites) is that a guy might IM you for a while and you think that means that he's interested and then you never hear from him again--my theory is that the guy is bored that night & has nothing to do, so why not chat with a girl?  It's not making much effort on his part to do so.  I also don't know whether you told him your whole life history--you have to realize that you're talking to a stranger so maybe you said some things that could be considered negative, like you live w/ your parents and don't drive--the idea of getting a date on OLD is to at least lure the guy into meeting you--you don't do that by telling him all the bad stuff about you.  For me, it's embarrassing to have to admit that I'm divorced twice so I just say I'm divorced--I figure if we meet and seem to hit it off, then I'll have time to explain the details--if we don't get around to meeting, then why bother to spill my whole life history?

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Wed, 12-26-2012 - 2:02pm

Why do I have to lie then? If a guy asks me straight out, "so do you drive?" what am I suppose to say "yes" when I clearly don't?

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Registered: 04-13-2007
Wed, 12-26-2012 - 5:17pm
You dont have to lie... you just adjust your timing to flow of your relationship...usually the things we reveal and the questions we ask reveal what is important to us.. so if he asks that early if you drive, then that is his priority and a likely deal breaker...on end, if a possible date reveals really early & unasked that they dont drive, it gived message of always having to give them rides . Same concept can be applied other big issues such as kids, jobs...
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Registered: 08-08-2012
Thu, 12-27-2012 - 2:18am

Could be a couple things why he hasn't called.

It is the holiday season and people are pretty busy with family and friends.

You gave him a lot of information to digest, give him some time to absorb it all.

You can either contact him or wait and see if he contacts you.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 12:55pm

  Not driving can be a deal breaker.  If you live in a big city with good public transport meet at a place that is central.  Yes, if you have a lic but no car that is not as bad.  But yes it is a handicap.

Goldfish