unsure what to do

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Registered: 08-04-2006
unsure what to do
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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 9:44pm

About 2 months ago my boyfriend of a year and half broke up with me. We had been going through a rough time the last couple months and were going to be apart for the summer and then we both going to different study abroad places in the fall. We talked a lot about what we wanted to do and I could tell that he didn’t really want to be with me anymore, so even though it hurt a lot I let him go.

Things were a little weird at first, but after a while we started talking again. We really opened up to each other and became friends again. Sometime it was hard for me to just be his friend, but I was determined to do it because I didn’t want to lose him from my life.

A few weeks ago he admitted to me that he had thought at the beginning of the summer that he didn’t want a relationship anymore, but now he is starting to realize that he really misses me. He said he has been wondering about getting back together with me. But he really isn’t sure what he wants in the end.

This really confuses me. I have worked so hard to get over him and now I don’t know what to do. I still love him, but I’m scared of being hurt again. I don’t want to let him back in my life and then just have him realize that this isn’t what he wants. Could it be possible that he just made a mistake and really does love me in the end or am I just hanging on to the past? We will be seeing each other again for a while before we both leave again and I’m not sure how to handle it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-05-2006 - 6:45am

katysunshine...

PG suggests that you keep the friendship that the 2 of you currently have for one another SOLID for the next 6 months! Expect nothing more from it.

By Christmas (or perhaps earlier)...your b/f and YOU will have a clearer picture of what your relationship is actually all about? It might be just a good friendship, or perhaps, something more?

Here's hoping?

Pianoguy