unsure what love is?

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Registered: 03-08-2004
unsure what love is?
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 8:53pm
How can you be dating someone for 18 months and still unsure how you feel? I don't get it, everyone just about has had a bad marriage or relationship at one time or other. I am treated great, he does wonderful things for me and we spend all our free time together and he is a real sweetheart. But he tells me he doesn't know if he knows what love is, he got burnt bad by his previous marriage. But so did I, and I told him you can let it eat at your for years or get on with your life. He tells me he cares for me a lot, but doesn't know if he should be in a relationship...does anyone have any input?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 9:16pm
Unfortunately, I don't think he's unsure - he likes you just fine, he's just not in love with you. The issue is, why have you been dating him this long if he is not in love with you or doesn't love you? Even if he doesn't know what love is, which is doubtful, the result is the same - he does not love you and do you see yourself in a longer term relationship with someone who doesn't love you?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:39pm
Are you his first real relationship post divorce? I agree with the other poster that he's telling you that it's fine to be dating, but he's not intersted in a LTR. Five years could pass and he's still be ambiguous. If your objective is to remarry, it's not going to happen with this guy.