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| Tue, 01-10-2006 - 10:29pm |
Hi Everyone,
Well, guess what, I had that meeting today with the association person. When we were talking casually about other things, at one point I just could NOT stop myself, and simply asked her about A. I was surprised that she was more than willing to talk about him! I candidly mentioned he was quite a great looker. And she said yes! She said he is the most decent and nice guy ever and she has known him for quite sometime. And then she dropped the Bomb. She said he has a girlfriend.
:-(((((
But then....she said....that she found his GF to be quite weird, and often wondered why he picked her. She was a loudmouth, and very childish. She pondered and said that I would be a lot better with him than her. Then I said that if he is that kind of a guy, he would never think of leaving her or looking elsewhere and would want to remain committed to who he has chosen. She answered: "You never know!". And then, out of NOWHERE, she said she will arrange a get-together where I can get to talk to him. The GF is not in the country.
I said I feel awkward thinking about him that way, when he has a GF. She said there is nothing wrong with being friends.
Well.....folks...what do you think??
It's so terrible :-(
U know how the heart sometimes just knows that two people are more suitable together, but, in reality, one of them has a GF/BF, or is already paired with someone who seems to be wrong for them. Well.....however 'weird' she might be called, I am sure they have something good going on between them, else they wouldn't have been together. I don't want to be someone who comes in-between their relationship.
It feels soo soo sad....that he is taken. How could I have thought...that such a guy could be single...
And yet, despite everything, I felt we shared something sincere and resonating between us. Something deep. Something knowing. But it's "bad" to even think of someone else's BF that way....so I will stop....
I am looking forward to meeting him in that get-together (it's probably in about 2 weeks from now) and saying my first hi to him. I am so glad that we will finally get to (hopefully) meet.
Whatever has to happen, is in God's hands now.....
I should...just stop thinking about him...
He must love her, if he is with her..

There is no harm in showing up. Be friendly. If the girlfriend is in another country it might not last and he will already be familiar with you.
Good luck.
Thanks for the reply Chamey.
Actually, the GF is only visiting another country. She will be back.
I will be dealing with her in the future since even she belongs to the same association. If she gets a sniff of me liking her BF, there might be trouble in store.
I had a question. In an interview profile, to the question "My treasure", he replied
"Still to find one". What does that mean? If he has a GF already, what is he pointing to?
Hmm....
If you are looking for this to potentially turn into more, I would caution you about becoming friends with him. If you have an expectation and it never happens, then you will be disappointed. If you go into it "hoping" they'll break up, you will probably be disappointed.
If I were you, I'd keep it at a very professional/acquaitance level until such time that the two of them are no longer together. You shouldn't focus your attention on a guy that isn't available and may never be. He is with this woman now and for your co-worker to pass judgement on her (that she's weird) is rude. She very well might be, but the fact is that she is his girlfriend and he likes her well enough to be with her.
I wouldn't necessarily read too much into the treasure comment. It could mean anything, not necessarily about the love of his life. He may mean ANYTHING by that comment such as the meaning or drive in his life or something.
Hm...you all are right..treasure could mean so many things, and I only thought of looking at it in one context..
It's possible he did mean something else.
Thanks for the word of caution...
I do need to be cautious.
I agree what I was told about the GF felt very uncomfortable to me. This person is known to be a little bit of a gossipmonger. I am even afraid she might say whatever we discussed to another! What if she happens to meet A or his GF, and mentioned that I was mentioning him. What if she gives hints that might turn A off. I am so afraid....
I know I was always hesitant of gossip going around, and since I already took the step of getting this out into the open by confiding in her, I have to be prepared with the consequences now.
Regarding him....
I agree...that keeping a professional/acquaintance type relation would be the best choice in this circumstance. I was always afraid of it turning into more or being disappointed, if I encouraged a "friendship". Both of which will make situations tense...
I should just keep my feelings under wraps...
Do you all think I should tell this person who now knows about how I feel to keep this info to herself? I did tell her already. But I am afraid it warrants another mention. Although, with this, she is likely to think this must be *really* important to me if I am so very concerned and afraid of it leaking out.
Thanks vexer..
That is what I had doubts about. Telling her once again, might be pushing it too much I guess. I will just wait, and hope for the best then...
It's a terrible position to be in, and trying not to worry.
I will be extra, extra careful about what I say about him from now on, when talking to her or anybody else. Cant let my guard down. It wont be healthy..
Have to wait and see what happens when I meet him.
One more thing is that I was doing some searches on the net, and I came across an address on his name. Guess what. It happens to be 2 buildings away from mine. What I am unsure is whether it really is him (and not another person with the same first n last name) and whether it's an old address.
It's a funny world.