UPDATE - FEEL LIKE DEFEAT
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| Mon, 04-23-2007 - 11:16am |
Hi all,
Just wanted to give you an update on my situation. so, i talked to my bf about his ex-gf and he agreed that she was causing confusion in our lives but on her own merit and not his - in other words, he wasn't going to rock the boat. ok, not to beat a dead horse - i let it go. so, on sat night i get a text msg fwd from her to me - the msg said something like to the effect that he loved and missed her & that he was sorry for getting me pregnant - WHAT?!?!?!?!?
ok, so i'm peed off but instead of cussing, & screaming (usually what happens) i fwd the text from her to him, fwd her a text from him asking me to marry him (i know what you're thinking but couldn't resist). after that, i didn't answer ANY of his phone calls or texts for the rest of the night.
sun morning rolls around and who is up before the crack of dawn calling?!?!?! HIM! I still didn't want to talk to him or hear anymore of his excuses as far as I was concerned the text put the last nail in the coffin and i was done. so, now he's texting me that he didn't write the msg, she's making it up to mess us up etc. Not buying it! I didn't answer his call or text until he said that I will call her on three way and you can hear me tell her to leave me alone. BINGO!!! so, we called (from my phone) he left her a msg telling her to move on w/her life etc.
so, now that he's done that, eased my fears, and we're calm - she start to texts me again ... ok, so the fist two texts - i ignored but after the third text i called him to tell him that she was texting me again. once again, we clicked over and this time she answered the phone. he asked her why was she still texting me and she asked him why did he leave her that msg and he said b/c he meant it and reiterrated to her to move on w/her life stop calling me. & that's when it hit me!
all this time, i thought he was lying about telling her to stop calling and he wasn't - she continues to do it to get a rise out of me and put the focus back on her. i wish i would've known this along time ago BOY it would've saved alot of time and aggravation. but i now know that the best way to combat this type of situation is to NOT react to it. That way, I/YOU maintain control over the situation.
thanks for the advice!
e.

#1 - "i fwd the text from her to him, fwd her a text from him asking me to marry him (i know what you're thinking but couldn't resist)" - hehehehe - a woman after my own heart!!!
#2 - how did she make it appear that he did send that txt to her about getting you pregnant?
#3 - if she continues, you might want to talk to the police about her.
#4- congrats on his support!