UPDATE - here's what's been happening

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Registered: 05-29-2006
UPDATE - here's what's been happening
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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 9:23am

Hi everyone,

I just thought I'd update you all on my situation since I haven't been here in a while. First off, the first battery of tests came back negative for everything, but being that it was so soon after the fact, I have to go back in 3 months to get re-tested. The dr. said a few of the tests would've shown a positive result if there was one, but I have to re-do the HIV.

Second, as for the guy, I stopped talking to him and sure enough 2 days after I stopped I'm sitting at home waiting to leave for my therapist appointment no less, and my cell phone rings. It was him!!! I couldn't believe after telling me "live every day like it's your last if you don’t believe me" and hanging up on me, that he had the nerve to call me after that. He used an excuse too. He goes "did you text me last night?" and I knew right away he was using an excuse just to talk to me again. I said no I didn't, and then he was like "oh, ok… so how've you been?" and tried to get into a conversation with me. I told him I was on my way out and I had to go and I hung up the phone. He called me again when I was on my way to my appt and asked me if I was free later on to meet him at "our spot" (he thought our spot was a school where he would try to get me to do "things" with him again) - I told him no. I told my therapist what happened and that he wanted me to meet him and she advised me not to, saying that he might do anything to me, even hurt me physically and just to leave there and get right home. That's what I did. He sent me a text message at work yesterday that said "call me". Since then, I haven't heard from him… I've seen him online, and I know he finally changed his match.com password like I asked him to (I told him to please change it, that I don’t like having people's passwords). I didn't think he would do it, but he did. I guess he got sick of not having his privacy. Anyway, we haven't spoken, but he's exactly like my REALLY ABUSIVE ex was and I have a feeling he isn't completely gone. I think he'll maybe disappear for a few days and resurface when he gets horny and he'll try to ask me to "take care of him" as he used to put it… Now he sees that I wont do that anymore and he sort of stopped talking to me… Well, all I care about is me now, and getting through the next 3 months and coming out of it healthy and safe. He can do whatever he wants. He's still on match, and god help the next girl (or victim I'll go as far as to call her) he meets.

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Registered: 05-29-2006
Fri, 08-11-2006 - 10:58am
...Oh and I also forgot to mention the very very last thing that was ever said between us... He said "besides you polishing my sword every once in a while, I want nothing to do with you"... I couldn't believe anyone could say something so cruel, heartless, and low. But hey, look who it's coming from I guess right?
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 08-11-2006 - 11:02am
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