Update on letter - rejection

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2003
Update on letter - rejection
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 6:04am

Hi everyone,

In July, I posted message 25692.1 to this board regarding a letter I was thinking about sending to my crush. .

Anyway, I sent the letter...and he never responded. At all.

Now, I recently met him again at a wedding. He was polite, but I didn't have much of an opportunity to talk with him. When he was leaving, he told me goodbye. I'm so embarrassed, I want the floor to swallow me up!! I am going to be in contact with him again on Thanksgiving. Should I assume he is not interested at all? He seemed interested before I sent that letter. Could I have messed things up so horribly? What should I do?

***********ORIGINAL LETTER I SENT HIM******

Hi “John”,

Congratulations on your new home! I called information for your address – I hope you don’t mind.

Anyway, I was wondering if you would like to get some coffee or lunch sometime – just to talk and get to know each other better. It’s funny – we’ve known each other our entire lives, you we don’t really know each other. I mean, I don’t know you and you don’t know me – not really.

And whether it’s just friendship or something more, it’s almost like me don’t know each other well enough to know. I mean, maybe we should just talk and communicate ourselves without six other people staring at us? It’s pretty intimidating for me, and I’m sure it’s uncomfortable for you.

Anyway, if you���d rather not, of course I’d understand. Please don’t think that you have to or that you’re obligated in any way.

Take care!

“Rita”

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 10:11am
Yes, I think you should assume he's not interested. You basically asked him out and he basically declined (by no response). Nuff said. Don't bother being all embarrassed and awkward around him. Life's more interesting when you take chances once in awhile. You took one but it didn't pay off. Next time maybe it will (with someone else who's interested).
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 11:26am

Actually, I think you just need to get another viewpoint on this whole thing.

YOu found him interesting and attractive - you asked him out in a medium that you're sure he received...and he didn't respond.

You did nothing bad, wrong, incorrect or inappropriate - he totally lacks character for not responding with either a yes or a no.

Take him off the pedestal.......and be glad you didn't get an answer to that request!

Erin
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