Update on letter - rejection
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| Thu, 11-18-2004 - 6:04am |
Hi everyone,
In July, I posted message 25692.1 to this board regarding a letter I was thinking about sending to my crush. .
Anyway, I sent the letter...and he never responded. At all.
Now, I recently met him again at a wedding. He was polite, but I didn't have much of an opportunity to talk with him. When he was leaving, he told me goodbye. I'm so embarrassed, I want the floor to swallow me up!! I am going to be in contact with him again on Thanksgiving. Should I assume he is not interested at all? He seemed interested before I sent that letter. Could I have messed things up so horribly? What should I do?
***********ORIGINAL LETTER I SENT HIM******
Hi “John”,
Congratulations on your new home! I called information for your address – I hope you don’t mind.
Anyway, I was wondering if you would like to get some coffee or lunch sometime – just to talk and get to know each other better. It’s funny – we’ve known each other our entire lives, you we don’t really know each other. I mean, I don’t know you and you don’t know me – not really.
And whether it’s just friendship or something more, it’s almost like me don’t know each other well enough to know. I mean, maybe we should just talk and communicate ourselves without six other people staring at us? It’s pretty intimidating for me, and I’m sure it’s uncomfortable for you.
Anyway, if you���d rather not, of course I’d understand. Please don’t think that you have to or that you’re obligated in any way.
Take care!
“Rita”

Actually, I think you just need to get another viewpoint on this whole thing.
YOu found him interesting and attractive - you asked him out in a medium that you're sure he received...and he didn't respond.
You did nothing bad, wrong, incorrect or inappropriate - he totally lacks character for not responding with either a yes or a no.
Take him off the pedestal.......and be glad you didn't get an answer to that request!
Erin
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